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Should I call him first or should I let the next move come from him?

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Question - (27 February 2007) 2 Answers - (Newest, 1 March 2007)
A female United Kingdom, anonymous writes:

Hi there - I'm hoping you can help me with this...

I was out with my friends at the weekend. I had some eye contact with a guy - and he started chatting to me. He invited me and my friends to join his friends.

So - he spent most of the night chatting to me (around 4 hours). (My friends said he was quite 'put out' when I was chatting to other guys). He was getting quite drunk (I was driving, so sober). I found out he's 36, been single for 3 months.

Most of the conversation was absolutely fine - usual banter, chat, asking questions etc. However he did make some cheeky (joking) suggestions that I drive him home etc - but I said no as I'd only just met him. He also asked me when my last boyfriend was, and when I said my last 'proper' one was 2 years ago, asked cheekily when I last had sex - I said I wasn't telling him. He is quite a 'cheeky chappy' in general.

Anyway - when I left he asked for my number, and then gave me his. All his friends told us to keep in touch, so we could all meet up again. As I left, he said to give him a call (I said - 'yeah, or you can call me').

Anyway - I dropped him a text the next day, (as I had said I might be in his area) - just saying I was ill and staying home. He replied saying he felt really ill too (hungover). He didn't ask any questions to prolong the conversation.

My question is: he (quite casually) said to call him. So should I call him, or should I wait and see if he calls? I always thought a guy would make the call if he's really interested. Plus, he didn't mention anything further in the text conversation on Sunday - which was a prime opportunity. I wonder if he was after a one night stand, and just asked for my number out of politeness.

What do you reckon?

Thanks for any thoughts!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2007):

Hya hun,

And men say us girls are confusing!!

Its true, he may well be a totally different person in the light of the day. But, sometimes guys aren't as forward when they are sober as when they are drunk.

At the moment, i've been chatting to a really nice guy - however, because i never got in touch on such and such a day, he figured i wasn't interested in him. Well, i got in touch and we sorted that out :)

There is the possibility he has read between the lines of your text - you told him you weren't feeling well?

I would text one more time, keep it light and airy - like hows your hangover now etc. If he is off with you, then you know to delete his number and put it down to experience.

Sometimes we all deserve a second chance - but if you don't it'll just prey on your mind.

Take care hun :)

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A female reader, AskEve United Kingdom +, writes (28 February 2007):

AskEve agony auntNO... don't call him again. If he's interested let him make the next move. He could be a completely different person stone cold sober, he may even be regretting it now so don't call him and come across as desperate. You've already made contact and he's answered you so you know he has your number. Just be patient and wait... if you don't hear from him then move on!

Eve

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