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Should I call him and just let him know how I feel to clear things up?

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Question - (28 July 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 28 July 2010)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I met this guy 4 years ago when I met him it was a odd situation for me because at the time I was very shy and A VIRGIN. but we started to hang out and he wanted to take me on dates and tried to get me to go out and not just stay in his house.( wanted me to meet his mom) He was the opposite of me he was not a virgin and had a child so there were times when he wanted to have sex and I just wasn't ready and sometimes we would kiss and touch and it seem like we were about to get to that point and I stopped but he felt as if I was playing to many games and he dumped me and went back to the mother of his child I got so depressed I started to go to clubs, drinking ( I LOSS MY VIRGINITY ) to a guy I didn't really know he found out about it because it was someone he knew real well and so he told me he was hurt about it but came back into my life, we would have sex on a normal basis but I decided to seperate from him cause I felt as if he was using me (I didn't see him or here from him in 2 years) he called my phone out of the blue ,now I'm still in love with him when he calls so here I am thinking we can finally have a real relationship we are talking on the phone every night having long conversations and we are having sex too but he never wants to take me out. I see that I'm being used again and I cut him off. Once again 6 months go by we see each other again and start all over talking on the phone long conversations and having sex and then we stop talking to each other. same routine for about 2 years. It's been 4 years and I'm still in love with him but I'm not sure what he wants from me I haven't spoken to him in maybe 4 months and if he do come back into my life what should I tell him and why do I love him if he is not really there for me I feel like my prince that I first met has turned into a player and maybe its my fault????? should I forget about him Should I call him and just let him know how I feel to clear things up I'm confused

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A female reader, luvingme21 United States +, writes (28 July 2010):

luvingme21 agony auntYes! You should call him and finally let him know how you feel. This has been going on for years, and its not healthy to be in and out of contact constantly. You should just tell him how you feel, and by his response/reaction you should make your decision whether to stay or go.

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A male reader, Odds United States +, writes (28 July 2010):

Odds agony auntYou should call him. No one can guarantee that he will respond positively, but unless you prefer the drama and mystery of not knowing, straight talk is the only way to feel better.

He might say he doesn't want you, or he might say you're the love of his life. Anything is better than not knowing. Good luck.

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