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Should I be worried that I am seen as flirtatious and probably giving off wrong signals to people?

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Question - (12 April 2008) 4 Answers - (Newest, 26 April 2008)
A female Australia age 41-50, anonymous writes:

My friends are always teasing me by saying how I always seem to have so many admirers, even when some of these people are just simply being friendly to me.

However, after one ocassion when someone had stopped by to say 'hi' and chat to me, one friend told me I was flirty! Even though all I did was smile and simply ask them questions about how they were, as you would when you talked to a friend! I really didn't think I was being flirty at all.

Another friend just laughs 'if you've got it, you've got it' and another says 'you have that affect on people'.

Should I be worried that I am seen as flirtatious and probably giving off wrong signals to people?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2008):

Do guys mind girls that are flirty? I don't think I am but my friends do..and I'm worried that he might have heard them and will think that me being nice to him means nothing as I am the same with everyone!

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A male reader, Collaroy Australia +, writes (14 April 2008):

Collaroy agony auntHi,

dont worry about it. My wife is a flirty girl, always has been always will. No big deal, I think your friend is a little insecure myself.

Be yourself.

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A female reader, troubledalone United Kingdom +, writes (13 April 2008):

troubledalone agony auntMaybe your friends are just insecure..

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A male reader, eddie Canada +, writes (13 April 2008):

eddie agony auntA lot of it depends on the situation. Who is he guy and where did you meet. I have certain rules that I try to live by. Of course this is also relative to your marital status. If you're single, it's nobodies business.

If you meet a guy in a bar, you pretty much know what the deal is. Of course the attention feels good but that is normal. If the guy is blatant and obviously wants more, you could seem flirtatious if you don't put him in his place. If he is respectful and you carry on a friendly banter, that's fine. The most important part is not to act naive. You need to understand though if you leave the door open for the guy, he sees it as an opportunity. Also, if you're the one getting the attention when you're out twitch the ladies, they'll take any chance they get to put you in your place...ie..you're flirtatious.

Flirting has a broad definition and needs to be taken in the context it's meant. As long as you're not disrespectful to your partner, if yo have one, there is not much harm. If you are the type who is seeking attention, people get tired of it, especially your female friends.

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