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writes:I'm 14 years old. We had a party in my house for my B'day. My dad's friend and his 16 years old son will (his mom is American and father is Sri lankan)also came to my house will gave me a present and told me " I want to tell you something " so I said "yeah tell me " then he said "No, I'll tell it later " After dinner I went to my bed room and closed the door to see my presents. Will was behind me i didn't see him. He hugged me and said don'tbe scared it's me Will. I'm so scared because I've never been in a room with a boy together and didn't know what is he going to do. I asked what are you ding in my room. He told that he just wanna tell that he loves me. He is telling he can't live without me. I was surprised but I told him to go from my room. Everybody was dancing but I was with my dad. Will came to my dad and asked permission to dance with me. He gave permission and danced with him I was so shy. He kissed me but thank god nobody didn't see that. I think it's not good to have a BF at my age I'm just fourteen. If my teachers or parents know about this it will be problem for me. He told he's dad is coming to meet my dad and with him he is also coming to know my answer. He is a good, kind, handsome, amazing guy. I don't know what to do. Please help me quickly. I need your advice.
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reader, ilanah tromans  +, writes (1 August 2011):
 if you dont feel its right to get into a relationship with him then dont you musnt be ready,and if your parents wont allow it then it isnt really a good idea. Maybe just stay friends with him and later on get into a relatonship with him, its abit fast to get into a relationship anyway you've only known him for a little while, just wait and time will tell, hope this helps...
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (1 August 2011):
 If you don't feel ready to date then tell your Dad to tell him no when he comes to ask permission. Your Dad most likely will say no anyway because you are very right, 14 is too young to begin dating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2011): I'm the one who asked this question. Please anybody help me what should I tell him? I have only two or three days.
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (1 August 2011):
 Be honest with him. Tell him you don't want to be involved with anyone at your age. I'm sure he'll understand and if he doesn't, then he isn't worth your time. If you're reconsidering being with him, then get to know him first, let him get to know you and don't let him make any moves on you until you're fully comfortable. But don't do anything until you get to know him and he knows you and then you can decide if he's worth your time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2011): If you don't think it'd be a good idea to be in a relationship at your age, don't feel under pressure to get into one with this guy! Good for you for knowing your own mind, I think :) There's nothing wrong with staying single until *you* feel it's the right time to have a boyfriend. Tell him gently that you aren't looking for anything romantic right now and settle for being friends (if you both want to). Even if the two of you never become a couple, there are plenty of other good, kind, handsome and amazing guys out there just waiting for you to meet at some point in future. Good luck and take care x
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reader, nottoday +, writes (1 August 2011):
 I understand how you feel.
I'm older then you but I'm also really shy.
I get really embarrassed when a guy hugs me or even touches me so I can understand how you were probably surprised.
Now for your question.
I don't think it's too early or a bad thing to have a BF at 14.I'd have one if I found the right guy (unfortunately I didn't)
He seems like a really good guy, he seems to respect your parents if he asked your dad if he can dance with you.
I don't really know how things are in Sri Lanka but it's pretty common here to have a bf at 14.
I think you should see what your parents think about this.
Maybe they wouldn't really mind.
Ask them what age do they think that somebody should start dating (don't be to straight and ask specifically about that guy, it might be too much of a surprise) ask what would they think about you seeing a nice guy that has good manners and that seems like a really good guy.
Personally I don't see a problem, I do hope they will say yes.
But again, I don't know if it's acceptable for 14 year old to date in Sri Lanka.
Best of luck.
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