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writes:My wife of 6 years and I have been having a little bit of fun over the past 8 months or so but in my opinion it went a little to far the other night.About 8 months ago my brother told my wife and I that my best friend of 16 years who is also a friend of his told him that if my wife wasn't with me he would love to bang the hell out of her.She was obviously flattered like any other attractive sexy woman would be.We both thought it would be kind of fun to start dangling the candy so to speak.So whenever he would come over she would wear very low cut tops or usually skin tight lightly colored tank tops with no bra so you could see thru it.Bottom wise it would ussually always be spandex pants or shorts.She also tends to do the skin tight levis jeans with her thong sneaking out.She would flirt and purposly drop things so she could bend over and do all sorts of those things then when he would leave we would sit there and arrouse each other.I loved the feeling of knowing that my buddy finds my wife that sexually appealing and she loves the fact of knowing that he wants to have sex with her.The other night she asked me to call him to see if he wanted to go to dance club with us so I did and he said sure.When I how she was dressed all I could do was smile and get hard.She was wearing a black tube top with a white leather vest and white spandex pants with a black thong you could see thru her pants.He met us there and when he saw her I thought he was going to melt.We just sat at a table just off the floor drank and conversed.We had all finished our drinks and there was no waitress near so I went to take a piss and buy a round.When I came back they were out slow dancing about five feet in front of our table no big deal so I sat back down and just watched them.I noticed my wife whisper something in his ear and shortly therafter I watched his hands slowly move from her hips to her ass cheeks.There I sat watching him rub and gently sqeezing her ass cheeks while she was looking right at me with a pleasuring grin on her face.I had a hard on and was pissed all at the same time.We left shortly therafter and I asked her what the hell was that and she goes what you didn't enjoy that as much as we did I said no.I told her we have to quit this shit she agreed but seemed very dissapointed saying she really enjoyed it.I said I think you enjoy it to much! Should I be concerned or did I make my point.
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reader, cockainis +, writes (24 November 2008):
 Next time, if you want to play games, you should have total confidence in yourself and in your partner. My read in this situation is not good at all. Your buddy is too thick in the face to not consider you at all and he is the type to be persistent over and above your friendship. Your wife isn't without fault either.
Check things out because what your brother told you at that time might have been stale news. Just keep your cool and keep your eyes and ears open. My friend, this can be a horrible situation so brace yourself. I do not want to lead you on and alarm you but I think that deceit is lurking somewhere very near you. If they're not already banging each other, it should be coming soon.
You have to talk with your wife and save whatever you have by being honest to each other. Tell her that your "perversion" cannot handle your insecurities and apologize for taking her to the edge of that diving board. If things already had happened, you will have to find out that your virtue of forgiveness can handle renewed trust in her for a smooth continuance of your marriage.
At the end of the day, you should identify each other's capacity and propensity to get overran by urges. Then put it to good use between the two of you.
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (24 November 2008):
 good answer uncy phil and talktoomuch I def think there is need for concern here and the sooner you try and sort it out the better love, hopefully you can and it doesn't go the way uncle phil has said, I was thinking this before, The fact that he said it would have been enough for most partners this guy is your mate...If she wasn't with you he would bang the hell out of her, Bloody hell if any of my partners friends said that he would knock them flat out..It would be considered really below the belt, And out of order. Yes your wife is attractive I mean you have known this guy for 16yrs so you must have already had some idea that he found her attractive. The thing here is she is feeling something more than just oh that's nice, Not that Id feel oh that's nice if someone said they wanted to bang the hell outta me...Id think what a twat! Its not nice its rude and not a kind thing to say about your mates wife at all..He sees her as a sex object hunny..You really need to make sure you speak properly with her or uncle phil will be right Im afraid TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): Basically, if you play with fire you're going to get burnt!
You encouraged it, so you can hardly complain about it now. This is a game that's going to end up in tears for both of you, and sooner or later the two of them will be meeting up behind your back. Will you feel so horny about it when that happens? What started out as a bit of fun can only end in disaster for you. It's time to stop playing silly games I think.
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (24 November 2008):
Hi Hunny
Your right to be concerned, The fact that it was said in the first place and played with has turned your wife on there is no doubt about that and from what your post said it looked as if she would like it to go a little further.
Its excited her very much a little to much, Ok it was a game you played and thought it quite funny, But your mate feels a real sexual feeling for your wife and when being teased its like come and get me my husband doesn't mind..One of my partners friends said this when drunk one night, It made me run a mile and I felt like going home not staying and teasing him. You have said what you feel now, The fact that she said "What you didn't enjoy it as much as we did" means to me they must have been talking together about how much they were loving it all. And the very words that pop up in my mind are threesome, She may have been thinking that way. I cant be sure as I don't no you this is just my thoughts on it love, You both could have opened a can of worms here so make sure you have got your point across and to you it was a harmless bit of fun that in no way do you want to share her. And then hopefully you can forget all this and get back to it just being you and your wife. TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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