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Should I be a close friend to my ex or leave it and move on?

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Question - (30 July 2010) 4 Answers - (Newest, 30 July 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, *eannebabe09 writes:

well i think im falling for my ex agian. Were both 15 and was together for 11 months 2 years ago but now he says to me that he likes me a lot and would love to have a relationship with me again, but the only thing is his not ready for a long relationship.

So now he has asked me if we could just be close friends who do stuff (sex and all that lot). So i said yea, but im not going to sleep with him for him to think i have no respect for myself.

i dont know what to do, should i just carry on being this "close friend" to him or just leave it and move on?

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A female reader, Logicgirl Turkey +, writes (30 July 2010):

Logicgirl agony auntThe answerers are right. There's nothing left for me to say. Just wanted to be the 3rd person to tell you, DONT ENTERTAIN HIM!!*uses a megaphone*

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2010):

wait...you had a "relationship" with this guy two years ago for eleven months? you were 13...honey you are just 15 and you talk about whether to have sex or not with someone who you arent in a relationship with as casually as whether to have a burger or pizza...i find that incredibly sad. You are trying to be a grownup way to young...and you will look back and see that with that you took on baggage that was way to heavy...

sweetheart, dont have sex with him...dont take the chance off std's or pregnacy...boys are fun and boys are cute...but dnt let them in your panties...please respect yourself enough to say NO! i have daughters....i tell them the same thing. I have sons and I tell them the same thing....no sex until you are adults. hugs sweetheart, deb

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A male reader, Kenj United Kingdom +, writes (30 July 2010):

Kenj agony auntIt sounds like he just wants to keep you as a friend with benefits in other words he is using you.

It takes 2 but you sound like a girl who doesn’t want to be taken for granted so in my humble opinion if you like the guy tell him you can be friends but no sex but I really don’t think he will hang around for long without it.

I am sure you have heard all this before and I am not lecturing you but be very careful your still classed as a minor at age 15 and sex at that age is breaking the law. On saying that if you must do it make sure its safe.

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A female reader, Gabrielle Stoker United States +, writes (30 July 2010):

Gabrielle Stoker agony auntWhen I was your age a guy I was completely head-over-heels in love with offered me a similar kind of proposition. For the next year-and-a-half I spent almost every free moment giving him head in every place imaginable and thinking I was the luckiest girl in the world.

Then he started seeing a decidedly less attractive girl who left him after about a month and left me with what I thought was broken heart and what definitely was a terrible repuation in my school.

To cut a long story short, he wants to use you. Don't entertain the guy.

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