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writes:My bf used to send me more than 1 or 2 messages a day, and usually he is the one who says "hi" first when I'm online and reply me very quick. But these days, he only sent me 1 message a day and I became the one who says "hi" first ( I know this doesn't matter ) but he took 5 min to answer me. I usually think about he cheat on me, but then I forget it. Because I trust him. But should I ask him why he takes so long to reply me? and why he only send me 1 message? I'm afraid he'll feel uncomfortable...Please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, :)31215  +, writes (28 November 2010):
 I had the same thing with my boyfriend. I spoke to him about it.. Not confrontational or anything, but because we talk about eveything thts on our minds.. Good or bad.
Turns out he jst gets distracted doing other stuff. Still pangs a bit when he takes ages to reply to my messages or on msn, cause I feel I should be priority to him, as when he msgs me I always reply within 2 mins. But I get that he gets distracted easily so ijust let it go
believe me, you'll drive yourself crazy thinking he's cheating on you, wheb he probably isn't. As the other posters have said, you'll probably just end up looking really clingy.
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reader, Miley  +, writes (28 November 2010):
 Dont do this...This is not for that he will feel uncomfortable, you should not ask him because you should show him that whatever he his doing its not bothering you...you can do the same thing...give him late reply...if both of you are online dont say him hi...wait 10-15 min...then say hi to him (sometime log out without saying him hi)...give him late rply and talk hardly for 10 min...then said him bye and log out.dont give him time to ask you why are you going to log out etc etc...make yourself unavailable to him...he will miss you and lots of question will arise in his mind...he will chase you to know his answer
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reader, FluffyPie  +, writes (28 November 2010):
 Maybe he's busy doing something else, because let me tell you something: this guy has a life, with or without you.
So he's got stuff to do, this doesn't mean he doesn't love you or if he doesn't reply right away, doesn't mean he loves you less. Forget about texting or calling him, just spend time together.
I'm telling you from own experience: I was like you, insecure about my boyfriend, thinking that if he doesn't answer when I say "hi", it's the end of our relationship. But I educated myself and my need to contact him all the time.
Reasons could be thousands, but stop imagining things. Your insecurity makes you become clingy and he WILL start to lose interest, because he can't sleep with the phone next to his pillow just to reply your messages. Or any "urgent" stuff, so don't worry, it's fine if he's taking some time to answer.
If I were you, I'd be glad he still replies...
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reader, petina1 +, writes (28 November 2010):
 Who knows what the other person is doing when you are talking on line. It could be just as simple as he was in the bathroom when you said 'Hi'. You may be coming across as being a bit clingy.
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reader, iloveyou2 +, writes (28 November 2010):
 No dont ask him that, ask him if anythings wrong in person so you can see his reaction. His reaction to this will tell you everything you need to know. If you ask him why he only sent one message instead of two he will think your clingy.
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