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Should I ask her out! help me

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Question - (23 February 2008) 9 Answers - (Newest, 25 February 2008)
A male United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I need help really badly, as I feel emotional right now, but theres a girl I've known, she joined my uni last year before summer, and she sat across the classroom from me, and we looked at each other a lot, first week I did ignore it, but the next week, I told her to wait up, she was awesome and sweet and the way she looked at me, was so beautiful, I just cant forget it, we hanged out and talked about all sorts, I was a bit weird, probably because I was so attracted, I always meet her randomly usally when I'm riding my bike, or walking by myself, when I see her standing there I go to her no matter what, she has also seen me sometimes when Im totally feeling crazy and I guess she got used to seeing it sometimes, but when I'm with her she sees the real side of me, a side which no one ever sees, and it also happens with her.

I see a side she doesn't let out, people I talked to who knew her before, said that she is different with you and gives you attention, and she does, I do the same for her, I don’t see her much though, but Im really happy when we randomly get together, there was a time we went out and the starbucks coffee shop door knocked her over and I jumped for her and caught her right in my arms, the whole world stopped and I looked into her eyes and she gave me the sweetest smile, but summer came, I never saw her, nor did I get her number as I found out she had a boyfriend, when we talked she would always say hes annoying, and not bring him up after, during summer I did try to get over her, and then it happened again, I saw her and I felt so happy, she was talking to me more aswell then before, it was good then she disappeared again, I knock for her now and then to talk and its damn sweet she laughs and smiles and gives me hints that she wants to be with me, like lets go out, but it dosent happen, Christmas comes and I thought why do I bother with anyone just get over her, and I did for a while, January didn’t see her, febuary I see her!!!

And I was eating outside a shop, she gave me the same look with those beautiful eyes of hers, like she wanted escape she was with some guy, I took it the wrong way and I made small talk and walked off… I was like hurt inside, as I waited for her.. and this happens, anyway I go to find out my lecture times and Im having fun with friends and laughing, and shes there with that guy, but she was like ignoring him, even though he was there, anyway I ignored and just went, later I went to the library and I saw her, some girl randomly spoke to me about a movie I rented out, then she came down the stairs with the same guy, and she then started to talk to me, saying meet me after, I said I might, and she said its fine then, like she was annoyed with me, then I said okay… I get my bike wait for her, then I left she didn’t come, then later went home felt so bad, and she texted me later, I went to her house, and I aplogised and got her laughing and smiling again, I was happy and so was she, she said she hasn’t got a boyfriend, and that guy was just a friend, what do I do, I want to ask her out so bad, right now she is going through a family problem, I texted her 3 times and I didn’t get a reply, I thought either she is really busy, because I am too, or she needs to sort out the family problems too… but I care about her so much, and she knows I like her, maybe we are both just too shy, should I make a move, Id rather know now, then keep being a lingering soul around her… help me

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2008):

Hi Hunny

OHHHHHH! Your so sweet (In a manly way!!!!!)That is so heartwarming, She should like you she should snap you up and never let go! Dont you give up hunny she seems to like you and her problems and being busy may just be popping a strain on her but I bet you could help ease those problems and make life not so hard sweetheart GOOD LUCK TO YOU WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

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A female reader, scythe Australia +, writes (23 February 2008):

scythe agony auntwow... you're so kind and honest. i think that if you explain to her that you want to be closer to her, but you are worried about causing problems for her, she will see how sincere and considerate you are and you guys can work from there.

sitting here reading your story makes me want you to tell her how you feel right now because i don't want it to turn into one of those huge "what-ifs" or "could-have-been's" down the track.

good luck mate :) take care

xox

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008):

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awwwe you people are so damn sweet, I really appreciate your comments, its helping me a lot, because I'm at the climax where I want to ask her out, but at the same time I dont want to be annoying, I have got the courage in my heart to say it, but I dont want to get in the way of her other problems, I hope she sorts them out, as I truely care for this girl, and its true everytime I see her, we just go crazy and just talk for ages, and when we go back to class to go our different classes we just end up standing for ages not hoping to go, but Ill go for it, and see what she says I hope for the best, and if she does say no, I will move on, atleast I will know, and for al I know she might even come back to me, but reading your peoples messages really does tell me there are brilliant people in the world, so I all wish you people the best aswell, Ill get the courage hightened and tell her, as my heart is strong for her, and Ill say that to her, thanks alot :)

boosh, Ponungalungb, Tigerlily, anonymous female, MIR3LA

thank you xxx

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A male reader, boosh United Kingdom +, writes (23 February 2008):

hey m8, DONT WORRY im kinda goin through the same thing, all the feelings about her and everything even the cute little smiles that make you feel gr8 inside,

ill post my question so you know where im coming from

(my question)= ive known this girl for a number of years and as times gone on weve got closer and closer, i like her, she likes me, i know this because weve told eachother, 1 problem she has a fella, we both have feelings for eachother and we believe we could be very happy together because weve said on more than 1 occasion, and this isnt just a phase, weve felt like this for sometime now and 2nite being valentines nite i turned on the charm like an idiot and we both kissed and i basically stopped us takin it further, realishig it could be a mistake, but im positive shes 'the one' and i dont to what to do! on one hand i dont want her 2 split up with her fella and jepordise their relationship and i dont want her to get hurt and on the other im thinkin sod that we both know that we could have something special and be very happy together and im unsure what steps to take next.

m8 just be honest with her, if your both single and you have feelings for her pluck up the courage and tell her!

you could regret it if you dont, things get alot easier when youve told her how you feel.....trust me! hard to believe ino with the situation im in but since valentines day weve moved abit closer to where we wanna be, and thats all through being honest with eachother

id give her sometime to sort out the family problems, but dont be afraid to tell her how you feel,

Good Luck!!

if you need anymore help or advise dont hesitate to ask me!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008):

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I understand you, and I will do what I have to do, thank you

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A male reader, Ponungalungb United States +, writes (23 February 2008):

Ponungalungb agony auntNothing ventured nothing gained.

Faint heart never won fair lady.

There are a whole bunch of quotes to give one the inspiration to take a chance.

I'll use my favorite . . . what do you have to lose?

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A female reader, Tigerlily United States +, writes (23 February 2008):

Wait for a good moment between you two, muster your courage and confidently tell her she rocks your world and ask her out.

The worst that can happen is she says no. You feel rejected. That might hurt for a bit, but you get over it and move on with your life. As things stand, you are already hurting, and it's worse because there's no end in sight.

The best that can happen is you get a great girlfriend!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008):

I feel that you both have a connection. You should take it slow with her first. You say she has family problems going on so you should be there and make sure that she knows that you are always there for her. With what you have told she must have the same feelings for you! Just take it slow and then when you feel that the moment is right then go and make a move. Mkae it like you are her friend but make it shown that you are only interested in her and no other girls. Good luck! I hope it all goes well.

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A female reader, MIR3LA United States +, writes (23 February 2008):

MIR3LA agony auntThat is the sweetest story i have heard... I think you should talk to her and tell her exactly how you feel and ask her how she feels so there is no second guessing. When you guys are on the same page tell her that you want to go out with her. Wouldnt it be better if you were there to help her with her problems then if she delt with it by her self. With the way you explain your relationship it seems that no matter how long you dont see eachother, when you do you get that same feeling. So no matter what happens if you guys really like eachother then you guys can make it work. Its better to ask and get turned down then to not ask and spend your whole like wondering what if. *i am not saying she will turn you down* Good Luck

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