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Should I tell this man how I feel knowing he may not return the feelings?

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Question - (29 January 2015) 4 Answers - (Newest, 30 January 2015)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Hi, ive been seeing this guy on and off for a couple of years now we haven't made it official its pretty much been like a booty call, So i never really thought of us as anything else, til like 3 months ago.. i started to grow feelings for him. We Started spending more time together and we even spent xmas eve and xmas together. But after that nothing he txt me for new years but that was it til last week i decided to txt him, and we met up and we talked for a bit and he was hugging me and he said he missed me i froze, i was like really i did too.. and he just held me tighter we talked more and again he told me he missed me and kissed my forehead and we just sat holding hands.. i dont know what to think of this like is he falling for me is he growing feelings too.. im scared to tell him my feelings for him, see the thing is this guy is a very attractive guy hes tall very handsome athletic lots of girls like him, and me well im short on the heavy side im not the type most guys would notice. And i dont think he would feel the same way towards me. I dont know what to do.. should i tell him how i feel?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2015):

Wow... lol you are easy to control.

Look your age 30 to 35 a bit low on the self-esteem side obviously.

Maybe you are placing someone on the pedestal that shouldnt even be there.

Three months and you already have feelings from booty calls? Lol babygirl you're not in love, you are in lust.

You dont love him, you love the d**K and maybe the attention he provide for you. Your ego is beeing brushed.

Saying he has many women, athletic? You're the girl no one ever asks out.

I'm sensing high school was not the Best years for you, for romance.

The jock and the girl who, earlier, was the girl who was getting less attention at school.

Please dont jump into things without thinking. Good luck.

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (29 January 2015):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntBooty calls are interesting creatures. They're great whilst BOTH participants are enjoying that booty call... THEN, become nightmares when ONE of the participants starts to fall in love with the other... whilest the OTHER is continuing on in "booty call" mode....

Unless you can (and will) dial back your feelings, reconcile to yourself that this "relationship" has run its course and isn't what you want....

Good luck....

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (29 January 2015):

Honeypie agony auntWhat do you have to lose? A booty call FWB thing? If that is NOT really WHAT you don't SETTLE for it just because the guy is hot.

I'd say tell him, and if he doesn't feel the same way, END the "whatever it is" and find someone who sees you as a WHOLE person not just a hole in the mattress and company when he has nothing else going on.

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A female reader, Lee83 United States +, writes (29 January 2015):

Give yourself some credit girl!

Absolutely tell him how you feel. If you don't you might regret it. Woulda, coulda, shoulda type of thing.

It seems to me that he might be feeling the same way you are. Best of luck!

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