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writes: Hello, My friends girlfriend is very possessive and immature. She has been through a lot like her mothers death when she was a child, and her father leaving her for 4 years. She has told me she always thinks he is going to leave her. (probably result of her earlier seperations). She now lives with her strict Italain grandparents, who I know only want whats best for her. My friend and I, now 22, have been very close since 4th grade. I hurt and feel for the hand life has dealt his girlfriend and I am always there to comfort her in times of need. Her possessiveness now has gotten to a point where I am lucky if I see him once a month because she always makes the plans. I have experience with possessive girlfriends and forgive his decision to always be with her. How could I get her to see that I am #1 Not against her, and #2 How to loosen her hold on him? Thanks, -Tom
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reader, viper92283 +, writes (20 July 2006):
viper92283 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks willywombat for your reply. I've told him how I feel, and he says "I know she could be annoying." I think he's afraid of being single again. She's cheated twice and breaks it off every other week. The truth hurts, but I think I may back away from the whole situation for a while.
It's getting tough to find good hearted and honest people these days. Think I'll put it all on hold and find where my future is heading, career wise. Oh well... Thanks again!
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (19 July 2006):
 You cannot loosen her hold on him, he obviously doesn't mind seeing her because he would have kicked back if he did. I suggest talking to your friend. Don't bad mouth his GF, just tell him that you would like to spend a bit more friend *quality* time together, then suggest doing stuff that doesn't include his GF.
Good luck.
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