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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid, Ive been in my relationship for a year and a month. I've fallen in love with my boyfriend and we have no problems except his best friends fiance diana is also in love with him! When I come around she gives me the dirtiest looks and she tells every one that my boyfriend shouldn't be with me. I've tried to be friendly with her many times but she gives me the cold shoulder. She talks trash about me and she doesn't even know much about me. When no one is around She flirts with my boyfriend by asking him does he think she is sexy. And she tells him she wants to leave her fiancé for someone who looks like my boyfriend. Now she's asking my boyfriend and his family to babysit her kids just so she can have an excuse to go to his house. While picking up her children she confessed tone my boyfriend sister that she is sad my boyfriend pays no attention to her. My boyfriends family find her behavior inappropriate because she's engaged to his best friend.I'm frustrated because I'm tired of people telling me how in love with him she is. I want my boyfriend to tell his best friend what's going on so she will be exposed. My boyfriend doesn't wanna do that because it might ruin his friendship. He is afraid she will lie on him and his friend will believe her. I did convince him to tell his friend she's not a good woman for him but I want him to tell his friend every thing she's done. She contacted my boyfriend on Facebook and I read the messages to see if he flirted back with her or did anything suspicious but he did not. I don't think there's anything going on between them because I have no evidence. He just tells me what she does and it frustrated me. Do you have any advice on how to handle this woman? She makes me uncomfortable the way she treats me and lusts for my boyfriend. I want to expose her but my boyfriend thinks it will ruin his friendship.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (22 September 2015):
 Yikes, what a cow!
But remember this, you can't "steal" a person. Your BF is not an object.
And secondarily, does she only do this when she isn't around her fiance?
As for her trash-talking you - ignore it. She is jealous and she thinks if she paints you with a "ugly/nasty" brush your BF will love her back. But in reality all she is doing is making herself look ridiculous.
I think the more you try and fight back, the worse YOU will look. I'd let her do her crazy thing for ALL to see, her fiance will notice or hear about it... But I would also limit the spending time around her, though it will be hard as she is the fiance of his BFF.
You might want to point out to your BF that it can make HIM look bad too for NOT telling his best friend that the guy's fiance is hitting on him. Other then that? I'd leave it be. Poking a hornet's nest is rarely a smart thing to do.
From what you write your BF is not interested in her (might be why she is mad at you).
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2015): I was in a similar relationship to you. However, in mine - my friend 'pretended' she wasn't interested in my man but was secretly having an affair with him behind my back.
At least with you - you KNOW she is flirting & interested in him - so at least you can keep tabs on her and check what she & he are up to!! You have a head start so use it!!
However - in all honesty - it sounds like your fella isn't interested anyway. If he was - he wouldn't be so up front about it all - so relax & just keep an eye on the girl if you feel you must - but believe me - she'll soon get bored if he's not responding to her much!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2015): Loyalties run deep so i would stay out of it.If the fiancee realizes his gf is an ol slapper who wants to bed his best friend he will break it off and a rift will be caused in the friendship.Then if you are instrumental in bringing about the rift you will get ditched too and the guys will go on the prowl together.
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