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She's suddenly scared to do the things we've been doing instead of sex and I'm displeased

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Question - (23 July 2007) 5 Answers - (Newest, 23 July 2007)
A male United States age 30-35, *goodyX writes:

hey, im 15 years old and me and my girl friend have been doing allot of things except for sex. and now all of a sudden she is scared to do everything else (stuff we even did before ex: anal) now im always feeling unpleased and depressed because she isn't treating me the way she used to. please i need to know how to fix this!!! thanks

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A male reader, XgoodyX United States +, writes (23 July 2007):

XgoodyX is verified as being by the original poster of the question

i understand everyones answers but we've been going out for aout a year now and we cudle and do all 'relationship' stuff (not sexuall stuff) all the time

we watch movies we go out we have a good time we do all sorts of things.

im not a bad boyfrined she loves me and i say that with confedence. beacuse i know its true

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2007):

I would not view this as a direct attack on you. She may feel that you have been moving too fast and wants to slow down a little. Sometimes when you run out of things to do it gets boring. That maybe what she's afraid of. You are young, don't rush it. If you really care about her focus on the other aspects of the relationship. Being sweet and caring may put her back in the mood, but make sure that it's for real and not an act.

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A male reader, GreenTea United States +, writes (23 July 2007):

have you asked her? its pretty unfair and wrong to change the rules of the game mid relationship.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2007):

ok well first thing, you guys are young but granted i started out at a young age as well. now let me ask you a question you dont have to answer me just ask this to yourself. Now everytime you guys hang out do you always find yourself engaging in some sort of act. If so thats bad. Not every girl is gonna want to do something everyday that there with there boyfriend. It might seem like they want to after you ingage but after a while they start to think that, that is all you want from them. now this is a suggestion next time you guys hang out why dont you try just watching a movie and i mean actully watching the movie yes you guys can cuddle and hold hands etc... but try to keep any activity to a min. I had that problem with my current girlfriend now and the same thing was happening and to be honest if you guys cant just sit and be togther there is a problem. Im not to sure to what extent your problem is but this is just from my point of view. Just remember there are times when things are suppose to happen and times when they arent. just relax take things a little bit more slow and see what happens from there, if youd like keep me updated and i will do my best to help you out.

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A female reader, Artemesian Australia +, writes (23 July 2007):

Artemesian agony auntIt sounds like you really need to talk with her about what she is feeling without pushing your own wants onto her. Maybe there are things you don't know about that could be influencing her change. Basically nothing good will happen if you just pressure her about it, you need to talk about it with her and be supportive. Best of luck.

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