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anonymous
writes:I have been seeing my current girlfriend for about 7 months now and things are going fine. However, before I started seeing my girlfriend, I became close to a (female) friend of mine of 8 years. We became closer and slept together a few times. She was not a very nice person in some ways and very controlling but when she comes into my thoughts, I lust for her even though my current girlfriend is nicer in most ways. I no longer have any contact with the girl/ friend that I slept with. What should I do? And how can I stop these thoughts? Your advice would be greatly appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (3 December 2007):
 You need to try, however difficult it may be, to put her out of your mind. it is clear it was just casual sex, no strings, just a bit of fun and she has moved on without any apparent hesitation. you are probably lusting after her because you can't have her, kinda like the forbidden fruit story, it's more of a challenge to have something you can't have, but when you have it, you won't want it anymore.
concentrate on your girlfriend, give her all your attention and when you think your going to think about the other girl, think of something boring, like fields or boxes, and then your mind, in time ill assosiate the said items with the girls name and every time you go to think about her, the item will appear and in time the attraction will disappear.
best of luck.
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