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*2dafreakinj
writes:I met a girl whom I honestly believe is The One for me. We were dating for barely 3 weeks when she told me that she was seeing another man.I accepted that and continued on with the "relationship" because we never said we were exclusive, and to be honest, I had it in my head that she would eventually pick me over him.Fast forward 5 weeks, and she chose him over me.As crushed as I was, we continued to see each other as friends because we're just that close and comfortable.But here's the kicker...even though she's commited to this another man...we take bathes together, cuddle naked together, and every now and then she'll look me deep in my eyes and tell me "I love you dearly" and then kiss me every so passionately.So my question is: what. the. fxxk???
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reader, p2dafreakinj +, writes (21 September 2009):
p2dafreakinj is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all so much for your perspective and advice.
I've talked to her and asked her to cut out all the misleading bullshxt.
She's stopped.
And we've continued to be quite close friends.
Even though I still have great feelings for her, I've moved on because that is obviously all that I can do.
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reader, jENN891AU  +, writes (21 September 2009):
 Cut her loseand find someone elseshes only keeping you on the side while shes committed to some one else, wen he finds out he will either make her cut ties with u, or dump her and then she will come to you, cause she knows u will be there for herthat is messed uppp!i guess she sees something in you that the other guy doesnt give her! And she wants both ov use, but thats not fairYou deserve someone whos fully committed to you theres plenty women out thereall tha best !
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reader, Kg15  +, writes (19 September 2009):
I think honestly thinks she is attracted to you but she wants to be with the other guy more but wants to keep you as a back up.
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (19 September 2009):
 could be one of two things and both of them aren't very nice from what i can see- shes using you because she knows you still have feelings, or she wants the attention, to be honest i dont see how this can work out positiviely for you- there will only be more pain once your feelings grow again :/
I would say cut the naked baths and cuddles out of the equation if I were you..
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reader, busy04 +, writes (19 September 2009):
 She's comfortable being between you both & using you both.
I can't put it another way. Commitment means commitment & what she is doing isn't a sign of that, by doing all those things with you,she's putting herself in a position to become uncommitted. However, If you are comfortable being with her & the way she's going between you both. And it's understood that this is a open relationship and you can HANDLE that: then stay. If you aren't & you know that you want more, but she will not give it to you, then I strongly urge you to walk away. She is only 1 woman out of a MILLION walking this earth & trust me there is one that can devoted to you.
You need to talk to her & find out what exactly it is that she wants & you need to let her know what it is that you want and be clear about and you guys need to come up with a solution for this.
Best wishes!
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