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writes:I have had a really big arguement with a friend about 2 weeks ago. We haven't spoken since. I don't really know if I want to make it up with her, because this is not the first time we've had such big arguements. The last one we had was before a holiday and when we went back to school she was acting like it never happened...which kinda confused me but I went along with it. She said some very hurtful things to me and she is jealous of a friendship I have with a mutual friend, and has even tried to ruin our friendship on one occasion. My heart tells me to sever the friendship but I'm not 100% sure, I know I have to do something but I don't know what. She has hurt me so much but I still need to hear from other people and to hear what you all think. I really appreciate any advice given to me, as I think I know what to do...but I need other peoples perspectives...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Dazzerg I have severed all ties with her. I don't think that it was right for her to try to sabotage my friendship with someone else. I have moved on, and I'm making new friends, friends who care.
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reader, Dazzerg + ♥, writes (28 November 2007):
 I would go with your heart on this one though if you say you are unsure then maybe your heart is a little too. The clincher for me is that shes actively tried to sabortage this other friendship; we all have rows with people and usually say hurthful things during the heat of the moment; that is forgiveable and understandable.
However, moving into active sabortage is not from my perspective. I had a friend like this who was jealous of a romantic entanglement and she said the most henious and unforgiveable things to this other person (about me which were completely untrue) and I ended the friendship because for me the line had been crossed not by the fighting but by the sabortage. It is my opinion that somebody who tried to do that does not truly care about either you or the friendship; like i said if it was just restricted to a few wounding words then I would tend more to saying you should try to salvage it....but I think in this instance you have to realise that this friendship is good for neither you nor her...hope that helps :) good luck xx
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