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She wants to be friends, but I feel like I don't need any more of those....

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Question - (2 August 2011) 2 Answers - (Newest, 2 August 2011)
A male United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I liked this girl but she has implied that she wants to be friends. I don't want to sound like a snob but I have enough friends that I don't even find enough time to spend with all of them. I'm 21, and this is a good thing.

I feel like if we're going to be friends, then she's gotta be that special friend, one of my best friends who I can call at anytime, who I can spend a lot of time with (I already have one of those anyways and she is a girl too). It is not really looking like that kind of a friendship right now though. And if she just wants to be another person in my life than I don't really need it.

What should I do, give it time and see where it goes or just slowly cut her out into an acquaintance, and make it clear that if she's not with me or my special friend than I don't need her?

P.S - Should I wait for school when both of us become busy and see where it goes? My best girl friend always calls me to hang out whenever, even when were both busy. This one, not so much. Should I wait one month and see what happens when both us start our own lives again?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2011):

Leave it alone and just let things happen, or not, as they may. She isn't interested in you romantically. And special friendships take time to develop. She can't promise to be one in advance. So there is no point in giving her that ultimatum.

Just treat her the way you would any acquaintance. Be friendly and courteous, but keep her at a formal distance. And don't announce what you're doing. Just do it.

If she presses the issue, just tell her what you told us.

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A male reader, Danielepew Mexico +, writes (2 August 2011):

Danielepew agony auntShe is dumping you. I suggest you act accordingly.

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