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She waited for me to get a divorce for 4 years, got tired and dated, now wants me back, should I give in?

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Question - (9 May 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 21 May 2009)
A male age 51-59, anonymous writes:

I met this young lady a fews years back. I thought she was a real sweetie.We hit things off very well. The problem was that I was still married and living with my wife. I decied that I was going to divorce my wife before I met this young lady but i had to wait util I got my money right. I had no dealing with my wife. We agreed on me staying at the house until I get enough money to move out.I reall loved the lady that I met. I would spend every moment that she let me spend with her. I bought her clothes and gave her this nice ring that I found. After we had been seeing each other a little over a year, she said she didn't want to live like that, so we just talked on the phone every now and then. She waited on me a long time and I guess she got lonely. She met another guy and kind put me to the side.Things didn't work out with her and the guy now she wants me back. I know she waited on me over 4years but I can't see getting back with her. She said she dated because she thought I was never going to get with her. I didn't see another woman why I was with her and I feel like she should have done the same She tells me she is sorry ,but I can't get over it. She only dated one guy for 3months out of all the time she was with me and she didn't do it util after 4 years but it really hurt me even though I was still not divorced and still didn't have my own place. I don't love her after this. She really was a nice woman, She bought me things ,cooked for me and always told me she loved me. She has been trying to get me back about a year, but I won't give in and I know she loves me and feels bad about what she did. Am I wrong for the way Iam towards her?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2009):

i think you should take her back, maybe she just needed sumone to be hers and hers alone, if you know what i mean,

lifes to short to waste time,take her back and see how things go for a while,then hopefully things will workout for you both, she must love you to wait that length of time.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009):

yes you are wrong! if this woman has any sense she will run from you.

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A female reader, Hobbit22 United States +, writes (9 May 2009):

Hobbit22 agony auntShe had every right to finally go out and date someone else. Why not you had someone in your domain the WHOLE time she was waiting on you. You didn't get up and leave your wife for her, and why not? You claim it was because of money, yet you would spend money on this woman when you say you needed to save before you made the move??? hmm?? Sure she got tired of waiting, men usually don't leave, they play. If you actually loved her you'd be glad that she is free, and that yo uare too, so you can be properly together. When you give things time, you learn maybe you really don't like the person so much after all, the euphoria wears off, the fact that you were with HER, when you WERE married, can she ever really trust you, and your all bent up about her dating someone else. Emotions are a funny roller coaster ride aren't they! You have no place to cast her aside, but the fact you have, says it all!

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