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writes:Ok a need help and quick! my girlfriend yesterday went out to the pub which is cool a dont have a problem with her goin out howvere she tells me today that her ex (the girl she was in lover with only 10months ago was out with her) and that she stayed at her house and in a single bed with my gf. am so annoyed and angry right now and she believes she has done nothin wrong! a have told her that a need space and do not want to talk to her until ave thought about stuff..am a bein stupid or do a have real reason to be annoyed and should a end it over this?? xxx thank you for your posts xxx
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reader, openmind  + ♥, writes (30 October 2009):
You have every right to be mad escpecially bieng lesbians because i never trust an a girl who still communicates with the ex because it is nothing but drama. She could have slept on the couch or even on the floor if she had to she would more than likely be mad at you for the same thing she just needs to understand that even tho nothing happened doing something like that isnt ok with you and if she need to get home then you would have been happy to meet her and see to it that she got home safely or picked her up in your car( i know most people in the uk walk, take the bus or the train) so either way you would have helped her so there was no excuse for this just talk it out and let her know it was not cool at all
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reader, Sweety Pie +, writes (25 October 2009):
 Well... oh this one is hard!If the guy wasnt a ex, would you still be mad?Because, yes she shared a bed with another guy, but in theory, if she hadnt been out drinking or had another alternitive of getting home, then she would have much rather been with you, right?I share beds with guy friends a lot, seeing as most nights we cant get home, but I dont do anything with them!I'm not in a relationship though. And I do think if I was I would probaly think twice about doing that.Were there other people in the house?I think this souly depends on how both of you feel, she thinks its acceptable, you dont. So let her know that, and then she wont do it again :DTheres always the sofa ;)
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (25 October 2009):
 Does not sound right to me regardless of sharing a bed, why was she even there in the first place if she is an item with you?Gina
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reader, OhPinkyGirl +, writes (25 October 2009):
 Well... some people do have certain standards and the fact that she told you is something probably huge for her. She was probably trusting that you'd trust her. You getting angry is only going to show her that you don't trust her. But definitely talk to her about how you don't like her sleeping on the same bed with anyone, especially the ex. She probably didn't think she crossed a line, maybe in her past relationships it was okay. You have to give her a chance to learn, if she does it again then maybe you should break up. Is she in remorse about it? If so it mostly means shes realized she hurt you and is genuinely sorry. I personally don't find that so wrong just because I know I wouldn't do anything and that I already have someone else so laying in be with someone or an ex doesn't bother me. I hope you see what I am saying. It really comes down to the trust you have with each other. Hope that helped.
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reader, sunnycomet  + ♥, writes (25 October 2009):
 You are not comfortable with it and I wouldn't be either. You have every right to be upset with her. Now the real problem (which you already know) is that she doesn't see it as a problem.
Try talking to her and explain your feelings. Ask her how she would feel if you slept in the same single bed with your ex. Would she find that acceptable? Probably not.
If you can't get through to her and she still thinks that there is nothing wrong with it then I would rethink your relationship with her.
If sleeping in the same bed with an ex is ok what else is considered ok?
Hope everything works out for you. Good Luck!
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