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She smokes pot. What should I do?

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Question - (16 June 2007) 3 Answers - (Newest, 16 June 2007)
A male United States, *old4this writes:

My girlfriend still sometimes smokes pot. Its not THAT big of a deal, but it bothers me a little. I knew she used to do it quite a bit in her past but when we met she told me she hadnt done it in a while and didnt really need to anymore. She didnt lie. she almost never does it. She also waits when im not around which is good. I have never smoked or done any kind of drug. Thats just the type of guy I am. I guess im just worried she will always do it sometimes even as we get older. Is this something i'm just gonna have to live with forever or do people stop doing this when they get married and start a family?

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A male reader, Frank B Kermit Canada +, writes (16 June 2007):

Frank B Kermit agony auntShe is not going to change just because she gets older and married. Her habit WILL continue.

My question to you is, if this is not THAT big a deal for you...why did you write in the question?

I think it is more important to you than you are willing to admit, becasue you are afraid that it could mean the end of your relationship.

You must decide what your value beliefs are, and live by them. It either is OK, or it is NOT OK with you. No one can choose that for you.

-Frank B Kermit

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A female reader, flower girl United Kingdom +, writes (16 June 2007):

flower girl agony auntWe all have things that we do that maybe we should not, you say that she does not smoke it very often and she does not do it round you so i can not see the harm in it, my husband smokes it and i don't and i can honestly say it does not bother me in the slightest and he goes through spells where he will go a year without it and then back on it again for a while.

Is it really that big a deal if she smokes it when she is older as long as it's not all the time it's certainly not worth you breaking up over.

Take care.xx.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2007):

My partner is a social weed smoker, basically whenever theres a group of his mates about. I used to sit with them at first but didn't really like it so they smoke outside now, especially seen as I'm pregnant too. I've asked him if he will give up when we move in together and he says he will but I'm not sure he will. It doesn't annoy me, I just worry for the sake of his health and mental state. Try talking to your girlfriend to see how she feels on the matter.

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