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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I was 'seeing' this girl, I met her at a bar one night with some friends. I was very flirty towards her and showed that I was interested in her. I got her number etc and asked to see her most weekends but it came across like she would never make any effort to see me. She would act flirty and interested in texts but when we met up, she would come across really distant. Every time I hinted at her coming home with me, she would reject, I never ended up sleeping with her but we kissed quite a lot. I was genuinely interested in her, wanted to get to know her family etc and I made sure she knew that. She is a good looking girl and is from a family that has a lot of money so I'm sure she could pick guys easily. One time her and this guy were together and she sent me a photo of him and her, just as a joke though because we had a inside joke about something and she wrote that as the caption when she sent it, I thought they were just friends. Time went on and she went overseas for a holiday and I recognised she brought that guy with her, at one point I was texting her and she said something like 'I'm away, talk to you when I'm back'. I would tell her I missed her etc and she would sort of do the same, at least flirt back. Our texting eventually became really short and blunt and at one point she said something sort of rude implying that I shouldn't waste my money or time to text her if I'm going to be blunt(I think she thought I was being intentionally blunt to her). She came home and I one day sent her a photo of my body after a workout, and at the time she was with that guy and he replied being pretty rude like 'who are you?' normally she wouldn't ever reply or send a photo back, even though it wasn't her sending that 'who are you?' and then she texted me saying that she has a boyfriend(that guy I guess) and we agreed to stay friends.a few months after we met she told me she was moving overseas and she left to move a few weeks ago, and said to me that when she's back home next she would see me(only time she made an effort, besides seeing her occasionally). Didn't hear from her, nor did I text her in a month or so but snap chatted her and then a week or so later she replied with a photo of her at the pool, with no top on and her g string bikini, she didn't show her breasts but only on the side(a side boob) so I could see some boob and her butt. Am I over thinking this and assuming she's interested in me now or? or was she never interested from the jump?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2015): She may like girls, but not necessarily want a relationship with you. She is toying with your affections; when in fact she has a boyfriend. She's pacifying her curiosity and attraction to females. You're just a guinea pig or lab rat.
I learned a long time ago, that sometimes people in the closet, bisexual people, or even straight people; may test the waters, but they don't want to get wet. Stop contacting her, and ignore her from now on. You deserve respect and you have dignity as a person. You're not something she can pickup and put in the back of her closet when she's done.
She was never serious about you. You're a girl she met in a bar, and she has to please her rich parents by dating guys.
Sweetheart, don't attach your feelings!
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reader, singinbluebird  +, writes (4 March 2015):
 She isnt interested in anything at all with you, to be honest. All the signs she is giving you is that she met you and kissed you but you are that one girl who keeps giving her attention even though she is dating and has a boyfriend (It may come off as desperate).You may have been her bisexual curiousity but beyond that, clearly she isnt interested. I would recommend just cutting your ties and moving on and finding a girl who is interested in you.It doesnt matter how much you may value someone, if they cannot return those feelings, all bets are off and move on. Dont waste another summer or year feigning for her. Just move on. You really deserve better. Find someone else who can give you exactly what you seek.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (4 March 2015):
 Cut the contact.
I think she is toying with you, but ONLY when she is bored.
Find someone who is as interested in you as you are in them, she isn't it.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 March 2015):
 I think you are over thinking it.
sounds to me (are you female like it says) that she was curious and attempted a bisexual encounter that did not work.
do not put your eggs in this basket.
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