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anonymous
writes:A girl has been getting closer to me and grabbing my wrist, and above my wrist but below the elbow. I'm also a girl but am not a lesbian. She says shes into guys but me and my friend are not so sure. my other friend is a girl. Do you think that girl likes me? She does the same to my other friend but she doesn't do it to other people? She acts closer to me but knew my other friend better.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (23 April 2017):
 I have to agree with Denizen, grabbing your arm doesn't automatically mean sexual attraction or desire. There isn't enough to go on to guess whether she is or isn't.
In what context did she grab your arm?
Are you concerned that she MIGHT be into you and that is awkward for you?
Or are you perhaps flattered by the notion she could be into you?
And I agree that you should NOT be gossiping about her to your other friends. THAT is just inviting drama and well, it's kind of being a shitty friend talking about a "friend's" sexuality like it's ANY of your business or something you can freely discuss with others. Would you like your friends to talk about YOU in such a manner behind YOUR back? I think not! So BE a good friend and quit that.
Some people do touch more, some feel more comfortable with certain friends than others, none of which makes them homo- or heterosexuals or wanting to get in your knickers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2017): Do you want her to? You say you're not a lesbian, yet you want to know if some other female is into you. That's a contradiction.
I think you're reading too much into too little. I think you are discovering that you are attracted to women; but you may be reading far too much into someone touching your arm. I think your reaction to it says more about you, than about her.
Sorry, but people demonstrate attraction through more than a touch or a wrist or forearm. That sounds friendly, but not much of anything else.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  + ♥, writes (23 April 2017):
 You think she fancies you because she touches your arm? Blimey, I have a number of friends (and work colleagues) who fancy me, if that is the bar! (For the record, I really do NOT think, for one instant, that they do.)
She is probably just a tactile person and feels at ease with you and your friend, hence doesn't feel self conscious about touching you.
I would relax and just accept this girl's friendship - and stop gossiping about her with your other friend. Are you perhaps a little unsure of your own sexuality, hence the insecurity? If you are, that is a completely different question.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (23 April 2017):
 I think there is too little to go on. Some people are more touchy feely than others. If she really fancied you - if she wanted you sexually it would be in the eyes.
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