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*ason361
writes:Dear Aunties,My girlfriend and I of 7 long and horrible months have been talking about our futures outside of high school. Now, I want to join the military and she wont tell me what she wants to do... She has ideas...The main thing here is that she said she WILL NOT wait for me while i'm overseas doing my country a duty.. I know this means she'll cheat and probably leave me. I can't deal with this and I love her to death. Should I find a new way to complete my goals or should I just leave her?
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (17 June 2009):
 Just leave her. There are plenty of women out there who want a military man. Try to avoid the ones that just want money. I am sure that all you have to do is yell out "Next!" and they will come running. lol. Don't do this in front of her though, just leave her.
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reader, laura585 +, writes (17 June 2009):
It seems so obvious to an outsider looking in. Leave her. If you compromise your dreams you will inevitably regret it. It doesn't seem like she cares very much about what you want out of life. It's your life and you must fulfill the way you want, no one is going to bend over backwards to make you choose the life you want. YOU have to, and then find someone who is on the same wavelength as you. If you two have opposing goals and dreams about the future continuing the relationship will make 1 or both of you unhappy as u start making compromise after compromise. Like Shakespere said "this above all: To thine ownself be true."
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reader, niki20 +, writes (17 June 2009):
 never let a women get in the way of your goals. if she is not willing to wait for you. she is not the one. do what makes you happy, you deserve to come home to someone who has been faithful and waiting for you. she doesnt want to wait? why not? i personally would wait if my hubby left for duty, even if we were dating, it shows how much she really wants to commit, not waiting thats just BS. you love her, but are you sure she loves you? thats not right. what reason does she have for not wanting to wait? and you said seven long and horrible months, does that mean it hasnt been a good relationship? go for your goals and be happy and one day you will meet someone, she might be in the military you never know. go for what you want to do, if shes not willing to wait she is not worth it and let her go. hope it helped.
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