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writes: I have a real problem with my relationship, but first let me provide some background information. I am only sixteen, and my girlfriend is of the same age. This is the first major relationship I've ever had. My first everything is with this girl, and I love her very much, and she claims that she loves me too. We have been together for seven months now. We get on really well and I feel that this relationship could be really long term. However, this is not her first relationship, she has been in two other major relationships which weren't terribly loving by all accounts. Three months into our relationship my girlfriend cheated on me, after getting excessively drunk while I was not around. I only found out about it recently after overhearing a conversation and confronting her about it. She admitted to it and feels exceptionally bad about it. This hurt me terribly, and it still does, but I decided that what we have together is too precious to me to just throw away. Now I feel that I am regretting this decision as my mind fills with doubts. We were talking about it recently and she told me that sex wasn't at all special to her, whereas with me it is incredibly special. I am finding it hard to trust her again and this has just made it worse. I am also worried that as this is my first relationship I am a little naive in my attitudes. I am also scared that I am turning to alcohol to deal with the pain.Please help, I am full of confusion and emotional hurt and I don't know what to do about anything.
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reader, daniella +, writes (5 September 2005):
Alcohol can do that to some people it doesnt mean anything. I think you should give her a second chance thats if you like her enough. But you got to think the thought of her cheating on you will stay with you for as long as your with her and deep down you will feel hurt and may not be able to trust her again. Look at it in a straight way is their a future for you both will you be able to for give and forget and is she really sorry for what she did.
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