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She says she loves me but keeps breaking up with me saying she isn't ready!!!

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Question - (15 October 2006) 2 Answers - (Newest, 21 August 2007)
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I've liked this girl for about a year, and about two months ago I heard that she like me too. I'm kind of a nervous person so I asked her out on msn and she said yes, but then she said aslong as we dont tell any body, and then I realised thats what I have heard from most of my girl-friends, I paused for about a minuet then said ok. Oh and I asked her on a friday and the next time I was going to see her was on monday, but on sunday she broke up with me on msn. now for about 2 monthes she has been saying that she loves me but she isn't ready for a realationship but about two weeks ago we said ok while we are out lets go have our 1st kiss round the corner where no one can see but there were people there, and she has alwasy been saying that she really loved me and that she has only loved one other person. But yesterday she said on msn "look there is something I need to get off my chest" then I said sorry got to go. Because that is exactlly what she started her brake up speech with. Sorry this was so long but I have a lot of issues, like through this realationship I have attempted suicide three times all because of her.

p.s. I'm only 14

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2007):

There are plenty of girls out there, don't get wrapped up in just one at your age. Obviously there is something wrong with her and you shouldn't let that affect your life. Ditch the bitch!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2006):

If you want to die because a girl played emotional games with you, then I can be harsh and say you should go kill yourself then. However, I have to consider that you are young and inexperienced. Thus I should show a better, more compassionate side and tell you that there are a lot of other things in life that is worth dying for. Attempting to kill yourself, because someone else doesn't appreciate you is just the a huge load of crap.

I can't say, "GROW UP DAMN IT!" cuz, you're still mid-teen. What you need is either a very compassionate person to tell you, "I'm sorry, blah blah blah, you can do better, forget this girl, you deserve better, good luck" OR you need person to smack you a few times, possibly even drag you to a place - to a scenerio where pain and anguish is so much more potent than having a girl not appreciate you. MY GOSH!

So if I say cut myself for every depressing issue that comes up in my life for the last 27 years that I've been born into this world, WOW, I would be so deformed with cuts that I wouldn't even be considered human any more!

YOU young boy have SO MUCH ahead of you. SO MUCH. Not nearly as much as others I'm sure, but I've gone through the a very shit relationship, and this was just half a year ago - for a year! I allowed her to abuse me emotionally, because I felt that I did not make the wrong choice, and almost justified some of the things she did. After we broke up officially for the third and final time, my gosh, I was pouring my heart out for about a month, but then I snapped out of it. Maybe because I'm experienced enough to feel that this is just one small aspect of my life that has happened and I just have to move on.

I AM NOT GOING TO ALLOW SOMEONE LIKE HER TO MAKE ME FEEL BAD FOR LIFE! MY GOSH! SUICIDE?!?!

SUICIDE?! Wow... If I betrayed my friends and my family for money, or cheated on my lover, or possibly traded wealth and power for the death of thousands, maybe even millions, then maybe I might shake out of it, and guilt cause me to think suicide, but come on... A GIRL? A GIRL WHO TREATS YOU WITH DISRESPECT?!?!

Yes, I am being sarcastic, but I am also being very blunt to be clear to you.

NOTHING like this IS WORTH trading your life away. For me, the only thing worth trading my life away is to protect someone that is worthy of protecting. ARE YOU PROTECTING ANYONE BY KILLING YOURSELF?

Wow... Mind boggling. Someone strap him down and shove bottled milk in his mouth!

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