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*lavallee
writes:so me aand this girl were dating for a few months and everything was going great. both very happy and had barely any problems. talked everyday and saw eachother every weekend but only on the weekends cause she lives 2 hours away. both said we love eachother all time upto the day she broke up with me. she broke up with me 2 weeks ago telling me she has no time for a bf. she said she has too much on her plate right now becuase she is running two households and taking care of her sisters kids. i understand this but at the same time she talks to and hangs out with her friends everyday. she said she still loves me and and wants to be with me but doesnt have time right now. she said she is not looking for anyone else and wants noone at all right now. she also said she still wants to talk to me as much as she can but hasnt talked to me since we broke up. is all of this just and excuse to break up with me or does she mean any of this and plan to be with me when everything settles down?
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reader, dlavallee +, writes (20 July 2010):
dlavallee is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the advice.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (19 July 2010):
 Okay. First, why would she lie to you about having too much on her plate? Taking care of her sister's children is a heavy responsibilty. Is her sister ill, or away on vacation or something??
I can understand she wants to spend what limited free time she has with her friends. They're most likely giving her their support, as well as being a break for her......she has to get away sometimes.
Best thing you can do is to accept what she has told you (UNLESS of course you have found - and I mean CONCRETE PROOF - not vague imaginings plucked out of thin air - that she's been dishonest with you in the time you've known her).
Just chill out, let her know you understand what she's dealing with, and perhaps you can offer to assist her sometimes with her child caring duties......be there with her. Relax and don't worry about it is my advice to you!
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