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36-40,
*llenthejuniour
writes:me and my girlfriend met two years back and i had to leave my country a week after we met for studies an stuff. We had a really good connection since then, we trusted and respected each other. We had a short holiday 3 months ago which i decided to spend it at my home country. So i finally got to meet my girl after almost two years, everything was fine since then. I had sex with her and she seemed to have enjoyed it, after that we continued chatting well as lovers for two days. Then suddenly she tells me, we can't go on with this relationship and she can't tell me the reason. She even changed her cell number, i had to move on so i went back to college. A month after we broke up she tells me that i'm not older enough "(our age difference is too small so we won't be able to get married)", mind u i'm more than two years older than her. That's why she had to end the relationship and she insists that we remain friends. I just don't get it, is there any truth in what she says?, did sex had anything to do with this?, maybe she got hurt and didn't tell me and what is the proper age gap between couples?
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reader, bluntasaspoon  +, writes (20 August 2008):
 she may want a more serious relationship and feels that only realy older men can give that? or maybe she liked the idea of having a long distance relationship but without the commitment? either way she has split up with u and used the age gap excuse. i dont think it is anything to do with u personaly it may just have been her way of breaking up with u gently
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reader, allenthejuniour +, writes (20 August 2008):
allenthejuniour is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Tremor, Sammie for ur answers, i thought of it as an excuse myself
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (20 August 2008):
 "Our age difference is too small so we don't be able to get married"
...What? Where on Earth did she get that idea? As far as I know, age difference has never been an obstacle to marriage. She's either got some weird ideas, or is making excuses.
As far as a 'proper age gap' goes - there isn't one. It's different for everyone - some people are only a few years apart, some have decades between them. Age isn't a factor when you're in love.
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reader, SuperSammie +, writes (20 August 2008):
 hi there,
there's no propa age gap for couples, although many woman prefare men who are 2+ years older than them, there is no propa age gap.
people dont care how much older you are when you really like each other.
she may have said this if you were acting very immature for your age
or she might like much older men
or she may have just said this so she has an excuse to get out of the relationship
but unless its one of those resons there is no really reason to brake up because the age gap is 'too small'
hope this helps x
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