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She said she'd be busy but I haven't heard from her in a week. What should I do?

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Question - (24 August 2015) 2 Answers - (Newest, 24 August 2015)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Hello,

So I was introduced to an awesome lady through a mutual friend and we seemed to hit it off right away. We have had two other dates/hang outs and at least from my perspective, things seemed to go well. She would always text me after and say she had a great time and reference some joke from earlier in the evening.

Here's the deal.. she's bisexual and newer to dating women. She had a girlfriend in high school but it wasn't really that serious. Beyond that she has had two serious relationships with men and now wants to date women again but has kind of been.. out of the gay community. She seems to want to take things slow and get to know someone before getting serious or sleeping together, which is totally cool. I think she's smart and beautiful and hilarious and very much enjoy her company.

Now I'm kind of stuck because I haven't heard from her in over a week. We had a date two weeks ago and she did mention she was pretty busy the rest of the month with moving to a new place and helping out with her sister's wedding. I texted her three days ago just to say hi and check in since it had been awhile and got no response back. She would normally text back within a few hours and now it has been 3-4 days.

I guess I don't know if I should just wait for her to contact me? or maybe she's lost interest and doesn't want to tell me? Any ideas would be super awesome and helpful.

Thanks guys

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (24 August 2015):

Honeypie agony auntYou have put the ball in her court with your text. SHE didn't shot it back for whatever reason. So as things stand, the BALL is in her court.

My advice? I think she is more bi-curious than bi-sexual. As in she LIKES the idea of a woman/woman relationship, but she isn't sure it's what she wants.

I think the fact that she doesn't EVEN have the ovaries to tell you, "hey I don't see a future with you" or "don't see us dating..." whichever, says a lot. I think she is "ghosting" you. Hoping that you will take the hint.

NO ONE is so busy that they can't shot back a text saying hey I'm doing good this moving thing is a drag and the whole wedding thing? Sheesh so much work.... I'd love a break from it all, so why don't we get lunch/dinner... THAT is what I would do IF I was REALLY interested in a person. I wouldn't blank them for 3-4 days.

Sorry.

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A female reader, Slippers  United Kingdom +, writes (24 August 2015):

I think, this is one of those " ride it out situations " you get on with your life and give her until the end of the month .

If you haven't heard anything then I would just say it wasn't to be . And move along . And who knows you may meet again sometime .. but today life is about you enjoying it and filling it with people and activities that will stop you brooding over her .. take care and chin up sweetie

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