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anonymous
writes:I have been with my girlfriend for nearly 2 months on.She ain't those very outgoing type and doesn't go out very often with her friends. However, each time I say I am going out with my friends, or to watch a certain show etc. She will lie to me and say that she has her own plans too, she will be going out with XXX on that day etc. When on that very day she is already busy with her work. She will like try to make sure as though that she want me to know that she has a lot of friends too, when I know otherwise.It is just getting on my nerves. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2011): Be more forgiving with your girlfriend. She probably doesn't want you to feel like she doesn't have many friends, she could be self-conscious and worry that you think she is a loner for not being very outgoing.Different people have different traits, and perhaps you could reassure her that you like her as she is, with or without many friends, and maybe she'll not worry so much about how you see her.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (28 March 2011):
 Maybe she just feels bad for not being a social, outgoing type. At your age, often not having many friends or an active social life is seeing as being "impopular" = a loser. Maybe she does not want you to think of her in those terms.
Rather than judging or criticizing her, encourage her to meet people , and help her to come out of her shell. Suggest some hobby or sport or class she may take up on her free time, or introduce her to YOUR friends,or just bring her alomg when you go to see some show etc. !
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