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writes: My girlfriend has just split from me and I have no idea Why. We have been going out for 2.5 years and everything was going great. We had moved in together last March. We had everything we always wanted until last week when I found a text from a guy. How Can I get her back?
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reader, StarNews +, writes (31 December 2005):
 Thats the way it usually happens. Everything is fine, or so you think it is. Then the person you thought you knew so well, suddenly changes. Sometimes it is gradual, but there are usually signs we choose to ignore.
There wasnt enough in your paragraph to help identify the problem. So I can only guess that she left you and that she was seeing someone else and you didnt have a clue.
Usually once they are gone, you can look back at things they said and did. Sometimes we are so consumed in the relationship and dont realize the other person may be feeling they want out. I feel the cruelest thing a person can do to another human being in a relationship is to cheat on them, and then leave them for somebody else. It is selfish and is a kind of pain unimaginable, that only the person who has been abandoned can truly feel.
When a relationship ends so abruptly, you grieve for that person. Its as if they have died, yet they are still alive. I really do not know what is worse, losing someone close to you because they have passed away or because they wanted out. I sympathize with you and I truly feel your pain.
There are too many questions unanswered, if she left suddenly with no explanation and you havent heard from her. I dont know how someone could do this and not have a conscious. I feel it eventually catches up to them somehow.
Even if she were to return, you have to think twice if you want someone like this in your life. It would make you wonder when and if she will do it again. You will never feel totally secure in the relationship again and you may lose some feelings for her. You can forgive but you will never forget. I think you need to ask yourself, do you really want someone back who left you with no explanation?
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