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She knew I liked her, ignored me for a year, and is now engaged to someone else. Why message me now?

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Question - (15 February 2014) 9 Answers - (Newest, 16 February 2014)
A male United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

So after being ignored by a girl for a year because I told her that I liked her. She has since gotten engaged she sends me a random faceb00k message after a year..."Hi. How you doing?". I reply simply..."I am OK, and u?". She replies..."all good".

So I began wondering where this random exchange of messages was going and asked a simple question..."Whats new?". No response from her. don't really see what the point of the whole conversation was. If she doesn't want to talk then why waste my time initiating a conversation?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (16 February 2014):

Honeypie agony auntEh, like Auntie Babbit said, she wanted an ago stroke and YOU would do.

I would remove her from your Facebook - un-friend her and block her, there is NO NEED to stay in touch.

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A female reader, pinktopaz United States +, writes (16 February 2014):

I agree with Aunty Babbit, she just wants attention. I wouldn't put too much thought into it because it won't go anywhere. She just needed an ego stroke, even if it was you just replying to her message.

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A male reader, Gauntlet France +, writes (16 February 2014):

Gauntlet agony auntAnyway, this "relationship" can't go anywhere. Then don't ask yourself too much questions, it's no use... As I say often on Dear Cupid: don't lose your time, life is too short.

Move on, and find someone who will love you as much as you will love her.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2014):

Aunty Babbit, is 100% right, dont fall for it, she'll probs get to know you again and then bring up feelings in you to make you want her , to make her feel better, or worse use you to make her partner jealous

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A reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2014):

By the way, making the list is a compliment and that should boost your ego. She never wrote you off!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2014):

If you're a smart single woman, you keep all your options open. If you know a guy likes you, and he's cute; you don't get on his bad side. You sure as hell don't sever all ties.

You were on the list. You just didn't make it to the top,

dude!

I'm gay, but I know these things.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2014):

Aunty Babbit is right. Some women truly are like that. Don't reply if she writes back to you. Either just ignore her messages from now on, or block her.

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A female reader, Aunty BimBim Australia +, writes (15 February 2014):

Aunty BimBim agony auntProbably no point at all, she may have been simply going through her friends list, you can remover her from your list you know, and they she would not be able to waste any more of your time.

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A female reader, Aunty Babbit United Kingdom +, writes (15 February 2014):

Aunty Babbit agony auntSome women are very needy, they enjoy the attention of admirers and like to think that those guys are hung up on them even though they don't want a relationship with them.

I think this girl likes the fact that you admitted to her that you had feelings for her/fancied her etc and wants to keep her memory in the forefront of your mind.

She's playing games with you, she wants to think that you still desire her even though she's engaged and due to marry another man. It makes her feel desirable.

It's a selfish and childish thing to do, she has total disregard for your feelings. I say block her on Facebook and forget about her.

I hope this helps AB x

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