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She has got looser, is she cheating?

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Question - (9 August 2007) 16 Answers - (Newest, 11 August 2007)
A male Sri Lanka age 41-50, anonymous writes:

i suspect that my wife is cheating on me.her vagina has become looser suddenly.it was tighter for more than one year after the birth of our one and only child.is my suspicion right?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2007):

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thank you very much dear "swtbby44" for taking your time to answer my question. i am especially thankful to you for providing me with the answer you got from your gynaecologist.

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A female reader, swtbby44 Canada +, writes (10 August 2007):

I worried about that along time ago after the birth of my baby and my gynecologist said I was normal and not to worry. she said she see's thousands of women every year and she knows what she's talking about and she wouldnt lie to me.

So, I would ask a gynecologist. Things like this are important and it could save your marriage and your nerves. be gentle whatever you do, its a very delicate subject. good luck.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2007):

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thank you dear "puzzled" for your answer. keep on the good work.

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A female reader, puzzled Ireland +, writes (10 August 2007):

puzzled agony auntlots thing can make you much looser(tampons, horseriding,gym, sports etc)or maybe you have become impodent. there are all these reasons, if you are worried talk to her about this. dont hesitate! or see your local doc.

all d best

xxx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2007):

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thank you very much dear "irish49" and "anonymous female writer" for answering my question.keep on answering desperate persons like me.i thank you again for taking time to read my question and answering it.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007):

No, she probably isn't cheating. That is a silly myth! No matter how much sex a woman has, it does not affect her vaginal size. What likely has happened is her pelvic muscle tissue has become, over time, weakened a bit, from giving birth. This happens sometimes, but not in all cases. Support her. Suggest nicely to her to do "pelvic floor muscle' exercises. Hormonals dip and raise in women when it come to sex. Another thing could be, she is suddenly more aroused than ever, and she may be just excreting morte female ejaculate (getting wetter). Whatever you do, when approaching your wife about this, please be kind, supportive and respectful. A woman feelings about her vagina is central to her sexuality. If all else fails, perhaps your doctor may have some good advice.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007):

If your wife was cheating she may have gone off sex with you altogether - that may be more of a sign. Perhaps you could try different positions if you are feeling that the tightness is a problem? However I do think, as the other posts mention, that you also need to consider your own size into the mix and whether, psychologically, your erection may be affected at this time and not so strong. The problem may simply be a temporary thing.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007):

I actually have to agree with eddie on this one

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007):

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thank you eddie for your indepth answer. keep on.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007):

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thank you very much four indebth answer dear 1-auntyem 2-sandman 3-aphexinfinite 4-anonymous reader and 5-lisa kathleengates.

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A male reader, eddie Canada +, writes (9 August 2007):

eddie agony auntThat is a real stretch, jumping to the conclusion your wife is cheating because her vagina feels looser. Maybe your penis has become smaller......

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A female reader, lisa kathleen gates United Kingdom +, writes (9 August 2007):

lisa kathleen gates agony aunti agree with aunt em, she is going through changes after her pregnancy, maybe that is how tight she will stay now, if u were that worried about her tightness u should've forked out for a private sesarian.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007):

You obviously dot know much about womens bodies if you think sex makes them looser or even having babies....sex actually strenthens the vagibna muscles so if she was having an affair I dont think it would be fair to assume she would be looser...hormones age, time of the mont, those are the things that affect a woman.....

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A female reader, aphexinfinite United Kingdom +, writes (9 August 2007):

aphexinfinite agony auntwell sometimes women can become looser due to weight, less use of muscles, and more so after having children..i myself always maintain muscle pulling daily in that region to keep on top of it so that even if i put weight on or off ill stay the same in muscle..the problem could rely in you have you got youre soldier to full attention, maybe you have just noticed it looser hope this helps xx A

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A male reader, Sandman United States +, writes (9 August 2007):

Sandman agony auntHas she really gotten looser - or have you JUST now noticed that she's more loose now than before? I'm thinking this might be the case - although I'm not sure. If she's the same age as you - it could be that her vagina is just losing its elasticity - so it won't be as tight as when she was younger. Which is a part of life for her.

Talk to her about it. Let her know your feelings (possibly without hinting to the fact that you believe she's cheating). If you accuse her of something, you better have more evidence than just a loose vagina.

Hope this helps.

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A female reader, AuntyEm United Kingdom +, writes (9 August 2007):

AuntyEm agony auntI don't really think its fair to accuse your wife of cheating just because she feels 'looser' Womens bodies change a lot after they have children. Could the problem maybe lie with you? Men can suffer from impotence quite suddenly. Maybe it's not your wife being looser but possibly yourself not maintaining a full erection? it's quite possible. Perhaps consult your doctor for advice.

All the best

Aunty Em x

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