A
male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi, there is a girl in my office, she started flirting with me some time back but as she was married i did not respond,flirted with her sometimes but never slept with her (though i wanted too). whenever i would give her signals she sould ignore them, but when she gave signal(obvious signals that she wants to be fucked) I ignored them as i knew her husband and dint want to cheat on him.me ignoring her , annoyed her and she told him that i was flirting with her and he threatned me to stay away from her. After this she stopped talking to me and now i have found out that she is sleeping with another guy!! Even when she was flirting with me i caught her flirting with other guys. Even got to read the messages she used to send him, and they were naughty.....Now i am jealous of the guy coz he his sleeping with her and mad at her for sleeping with him. recently she has become more bold and open in what she does and the way she flirts, earlier she dint want people to know we were close and now she openly goes out for lunch wth him as if now she doesnt care if her husband find out.Is she teaching me a lesson.Sometimes I am mad at myself as I could have been the guy she was sleeping with. what should i do?
View related questions:
at work, flirt, jealous Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2007): thanks for the adice folks.
I did try to follow your advice and was ignoring her, when
until I found her cellphone in one of our meetings rooms, she had forgot it there after a meeting. I recongized it and just to ensure that she was sleeping with someone i took the phone. i checked the phone and did find messages from him, some like telling her to wear red panties tom. Her phone had naked pics of them and contained clips of them like she giving him a blowjob, he touching her boobs in a car, having sex and other such stuff. It was jackpot!!
i took the phone thinking I would give her husband the proof but since her husband was away I kept. Now I see those clips and pics everyday and do not want to return them and niether want to show it to her husband. Sometimes i get tempted to sending the clips to the whole office and sometimes i think of showing it her and wanting to start where i left. Please help me................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2007): Let's see if I got this right. So you're mad at yourself because you blew it with the married hottie from work? And now, to add insult to injury...she's boinking someone else and not you? Clearly, this is just your 'male competitivness' and ego coming to the forefront. I really hardly think this woman had any special meaning to you other than a 'sperm depository'. So what..you lost. Move on. But I have to comment-she must be some gal! She has 3 guys..err victims on the hook. You, the lover and her husband. This woman is clearly a philanderer..not just a straying wife. Female philanderers prefer to raid other people's lives and make a huge mess of things. They really like doing as much damage as possible, and then go dancing off, feeling all happy and reaffirmed. This woman likes to put her male victims through all of this just to give herself a sense of empowerment. And yes, she is teaching you a lesson because you've 'allowed her to'. Your silly, unfounded jealousy is what amazes me. How do you think poor hubby feels? If you feel that your entire life is dependent on 'boinking' this married lady for a few cheap orgasmic thrills, then really, hun-you need to get a life. Date some nice girls, develop other interests, rekindle old friendships, make new friends and explore new hobbies. Accept that you have an existence and know their are a lot of possibilities out there. The woman is an ass...she's not worth it, so why worry. Forget about her.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2007): This woman sounds like a screwed up girl who is in an unhappy marriage or has so little self esteem that she gets her self worth from the attention she can get from men in the office, she is on a real power trip.
First off, you ought to be happy instead of jealous of the other guy that it is not you that is ruining his career over a bimbo like this one.....her husband warning you, is a sign that he already knows what she is capable of and doesn't trust her flat out.
Keep your distance, I would not even waste a breath on trying to even so much as associate yourself with her. Move on, good riddance, or as I almost typed, boob riddance.
...............................
A
male
reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (3 April 2007):
 Stay as far away as you can from this woman. She's nothing but trouble. Even if she's the best lay in town, she's carrying so much emotional baggage around with her that you're bound to get some big problems coming your way if you go anywhere near her.
Just be glad you skated last time, and in future pay attention to the fact that married women are, in general, not worth the heartache that they can bring.
Just not worth it, man.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2007): I agree with Kenny. This chick is trouble and you did the right thing passing it up for absolutely the right reasons.You should never allow yourself to get caught up in the drama that inevitably surrounds adultery. It's gonna be fun and exciting at first but then, as Kenny but it, s**t is always going to hit the fan.There's no reason to be jealous of this guy, you made the right decision, kept yourself out of trouble and by the sound of it this chick doesn't really sound like anyone you'd want to be involved with anyway. Sounds like she's into manipulation and mind games. I don't know why exactly you would be jealous but if it's just about getting a little action then there are plenty of available chicks out there that you can go for, you just need to make the effort instead of waiting for it to come to you.
...............................
A
male
reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (3 April 2007):
 I would say you had a lucky escape, i would be thankful that someone else has taken her up and not you. From what you have said she spells one word and that is trouble. I think she is just interested in cheating on her husband, and will sleep with anyone who passes her the slightest bit of attention.
Don't be jealous of this guy, with these sort of things the s**t will invarably hit the fan, and you will be glad you were not involved.
Good luck
...............................
|
