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male
age
41-50,
*nghellic
writes:Me and my fiance had a great relationship. Till i said remarks about her weight, "I know horrible right". I joined the Marine Corps and run and work out all the time. I also said this while I was drinking and my drinking was becoming a problem. We havn't spoke in a month. She has a new man, but i beleive she still loves me because she hasn't told me any of this, her freinds have. I beleive she is just with this guy to try and push me out of her mind. The same friends that told me whats goin on are the same, that have been trying to ruin our relationship for years. Since I've quit drinking and have kept trying to contact her with no luck. I know her very well if she didn't love me she would just tell me of all of this. I love her more then life she is my oxygen. I want her bak what do I do... help...
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2007): forget it, move on, you stuffed up big time, even if you did make up with her, she is still never going to forget what you said, and its always going to come up in fights, yes she probably has a new man on the rebound becasue she is trying to move on.
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (1 February 2007):
 hi dear
First of all stop obsessing about her she is not your oxygen that’s why you are still breathing well without her. Frankly speaking i don’t think if she was your oxygen you would have insulted her the way you did. And please don’t lay this on alcohol I always believe that when people are drunk all the things the say are the things their mouths were itching to say for a very long time but couldn’t say it while sober, so accept responsibility for your actions. I hope if she finally agrees to speak with you the blame to alcohol will shift to you if you really want her forgiveness. Learn to say things that bothers you when you are sober it is called open communication and it shows concern and respect no matter how hurtful the words might be but the way they are addressed might be appreciated. Women are very sensitive about their weight whether overweight or underweight it’s a very fragile topic and it should be handled with care. And I think your comment was more like an insult because if it was light she wouldn’t have behaved like she did, it seems to me she wants nothing to do with you and to forget you she found a replacement. It’s good you stopped drinking and I would like to believe you stopped because it was the right thing to do not because you are counting the minutes until she comes back.
jovial
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