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18-21,
anonymous
writes:hi, There's this girl I like, she broke up with her boyfriend of 5 months last week and I think that I should giver her some time to get over him. Should I ask her out or should I leave her for a bit longer?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2007): A five month old relationship doesn't sound like a mature relationship to me. She might be eager to find someone new to keep her mind off of the guy but you'll be risking that she will go out with you just for a rebound. If she is so irresistible and you don't care I say go for it; but remember that on top of that she might say no because it's too soon. Maybe you should talk to her to see if she looks depressed. If she looks normal ask her out. If she says no ask her for a rain check.
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reader, DJ8433  +, writes (15 September 2007):
 If she's your friend, then ask her out as a friend and be there for her as a friend. You certainly don't want to be a rebound if you have any feelings for her. Listen to her, spend some time with her. Don't be like a chick friend though, I mean be a man friend. Flatter her, tell her she looks nice. Show her your interested. If she's not into you, she'll let you know, then there's no point in persuing her on an intimate level. My theory is this, "women are like cats, you have to let them come to you." What does a cat want? To be petted and fed I'm sure, but a woman wants a man, a confident man, a secure man, a strong man, not a desperate man, and not a macho man either. I can tell you more things that they want from a man my age, but you'll have to wait for that.
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reader, Hk45cal +, writes (15 September 2007):
If you REALLY like this girl, hang tight for just a bit. Dont rush to soon. If you do, you run the risk of being the "rebound guy" which will not last long at all. She is at a vulnerable state right now and needs some acceptance. I have learned that showing interest and just flirting without acting on it works pretty well. Patience is the virtue. Regardless it is too soon...
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