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*uza2k3
writes:Am totally confused, av been in this relationship now for four years. this january my girlfriend left me for another guy, i later got to find out , and she slammed these words on my face in the presence of her friends that 'she's no more interested in the relationship that i should stop disturbing her'...i was completely disturbed for days , i seek my friends advice, which they said i should never call her or see her again. A week later she came back begging me and crying that it was the work of the devil , that i should forgive her. i told her to give me little time to get over it, cos it would take some time for my heart to heal back. i accepted her back but things wasn't really normal, i bullied her etc. 3 weeks later my dad died, which was very painful, she was there for me throughout my dads funeral and was keeping my company, but seriously a heart that has been slightly broken earlier by her and got even more broken after my dads death might take a long time to heal. i told her what was going on with me physiologically that it might take time for me to get back on my feet, but i would definitely will. Recently am overcoming the physiological trauma and i noticed her attitude changed towards me completely, any act or effort of making ourselves see each other she declines it, and she's really pushing me away , which is really causing more thinking for me. What should I do?
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reader, guza2k3 +, writes (7 April 2013):
guza2k3 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes , thanks...am really trying hard to let go, but her memories just keep coming..
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (6 April 2013):
I'm sorry about your dad.
After four years, you don't hesitate about being with one person or another. I totally agree with CMMP, you have to dump her and go on. I think she have feelings for you, that's because she was with you during this bad time. But I don't think she is in love with you.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (6 April 2013):
Sorry about your dad.
What you need to do is never talk to her again like your friends said in the first place. She's seen you vulnerable and that was a turn off to her. She cheated on you then blamed it on the devil when she crawled back to you (because he dumped her).
Call her up and say without a bit of emotion, "I've decided I don't want to have anything to do with you anymore, so go and enjoy your life and I'll do the same."
Standing up for yourself can give you a load of confidence and help you disassociate with someone whose negative energy is bringing you down. Maybe that will help you get your spirits up.
Good luck.
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