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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi there,Me and my girlfreind have been going out for 8 months she is still in school and im in college. We dont get to meet each other much anymore. We probably meet up once a week and when I do arrange to meet up she always fetches her freinds. For example: this weekend I arrange to go to the cinema and go somewere to eat just the 2 of us, sumething special. I told her this however she invited a freind.I feel that she would rather spend time with her freinds rather than me. She spends all week with her freinds after school but when it comes to a Saturday when we meet I feel unwanted and pushed to the side as she would rather meet up with her freinds. A few weeks ago we went camping with some of HER freinds. I wasnt bothered but it was when she started to ignore me and leave me for her friends. All night i felt pushed out Im not jealous i just feel pushed out I have told her this but she says she didnt mean to what shall i do?I am not going to leave her because of her freinds. I love her and would never want to leave her ove something so stupid. All I want is some HELPFULL advice.Thanks
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reader, lisa21 +, writes (4 October 2007):
are you her first real bf? if you are that could explain it, she maybe shy on her own but more confident with a friend around, also it sounds like you see eachother what? once a week? so even though you been together for eight months, she may not be used to you, is there anyway you could see her a little more often?
why don't you suprise her? show up and take her out somewhere out of the blue so she don't have time to grab a friend and find out what your both like away from other people. good luck
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reader, somewhat_anonymous  +, writes (4 October 2007):
You are going to do the hard thing that you don't want to do, which is talk to her about it. Sit her down and let her know how you feel. I mean, if you don't get to see her much as it is, it is not unreasonable to want to see her and her only at least some of the time. How can you do something romantic and/or special if someone else is always tagging along? Let her know that you need some time for just the two of you.
Just know that some people don't know how to handle or be ina a relationship and this could be a sign of that.
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