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She basically did everything possible that hurt me.

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Question - (28 December 2010) 1 Answers - (Newest, 30 December 2010)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I have a question about an ex girlfriend. we met during our freshmen year in high school and went out for 3 years. i thought all throughout everything was good with the exception of a few arguments throughout the way but doesnt every couple argue every now and then. well anyways at the end she acted distant and during an argument she broke it off with me. we had broken up twice before but gotten back together within a day or 2. this time she was different and within a week she was with another guy. they were tohether 2 months but eventually broke up because she said she didnt feel right with him because she loved me and also she was moving to korea for 2 years.

anyways she came back to me and told me everything she did with this guy was a mistake. the thing is am i wrong for thinking shes a bad person for changing me so quick. she used to be the calm type but when she broke up with me she turned wild and partied got drunk and her relationship with this guy was extremely serious with this guy after only 2 months it was like if they were married. and now she came back to me and she is calm again. is it wrong to take her back after all she did or am i just being too sensitive. i feel like she broke it off with me to have her single life fun and now that shes done she wants to be back with me.

i still love her but i really dont know what to think. she says i mean a lot to her but its hard to trust her because she lied to me about this other guy for the first month they dated. She basically did everything possible that hurt me. am i just being too sensitive or is this problem something that you guys would quit talking to someone you love over.

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A female reader, PoppyMae United Kingdom +, writes (30 December 2010):

I think you are right to feel hurt, and no way are you being over sensitive. Seeing someone move on so quickly and come back to you is obviously going to make you confused and upset not knowing where you stand or if you can trust her, knowing how she hurt you. You have ovbiously been off an on with this girl before which is unfair on the both of you who need a stable relationship.

Hopefully she has recognised what she did to hurt you and feels remorse, If not I have doubts about whether she feels the same way about you that you do for her.

I think you should spend some time becoming close to her again after the incidents and see how it goes. This could just be a case cold feet and your insecurities will go of their own accord :) If not I think you need to work through them as a couple and if she is not prepared to do so you may need to take definate action as I don't believe you deserve any more pain.

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