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writes:Theres a girl in my class that I really like. We have always had passing conversations and last week I asked her out by writing a letter. In the letter I put some really soppy things. A while after she sat a few meters away from me at dinner with her friends. It was then that she asked me over and she said that she really liked me as a friend but then she said that she would go out with me. She asked that we could do it outside of school becasue she wanted it kept quiet. I agreed and she seemed happy until someone was saying we was going out and the smile went even though we both denied it. The next day one of her mates came over and gave me a letter. It said that she wanted to concentrate on her exams and that she thought it would be best if we stayed as friends. I tried to give her a letter (via a friend) and talk about it but she wont. It was then that one of her mates came over to say back off. I don't know what to do. Im confused. Did she like me and her friends told her differently or does she not like me? I reallly need an answer.
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reader, Enzian  +, writes (16 April 2007):
 Probably she doesn't know what she feels and wants. She seems to be unsure and doubtful on what she should do. For her it was very interessting going out with you in secred and she probably had lots of butterflies in her stomach. But then her friends found out about and this makes her feel very uneasy . She doesn't want them to know and speak about it. Don't ask why. It's due to her feelings and she doesn't know herself whats going on with her. That's very much normal at your age.
She now needs some time. Don't browbeat her. There is no hurry. You have time. Give her some time. And in a few days or week ask her again. But do it secretly. Ask her directly or write a letter to her. But don't do it via a friend, but give her the letter yourselfe, put it into her locker or send it by post. Then you will see what happens and what she feels for you. But you need to have some patience.
Good luck!
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