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Sexless in New Jersey....

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Question - (2 June 2008) 11 Answers - (Newest, 5 June 2008)
A male United States age , anonymous writes:

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I've never had sex and this is what one woman said to me, "I'll have sex with any other penis on the planet, except yours". And that's the attitude of every woman I've met. Your (mine) penis is not going in my vagina, ever. So all the abusive males, wife-beaters, etc., are having sex while I stay home. I've gone out zillions of times, same thing. Same attitude. Your penis is not worthy of my vagina, so furgettaboutit. I'm a nice guy, I shower regularly and have all my teeth. I'm athletic and in shape. Looks like I'm never going to have sex, unless I go to Nevada and buy some.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008):

I'd read a comment like, "I'll have sex with any other penis on the planet, except yours" as saying that you did or said something to make this woman very angry. It has nothing to do with whether she was attracted to you or not.

When you describe yourself, you talk about your looks, but don't mention your personality. Are you nice to the women who attract you? Do you respect them for who they are? Do they like to talk to you? Would others consider you to be a thoughtful person? Have you ever been in love or been loved?

If the answer to any one of these questions is no, that would explain why you're sexless.

If you feel the answer to all those questions is yes, then we need to look further to see why you're turning off all these women.

Whatever you've been doing so far, it hasn't worked. You need to change something. Good luck.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2008):

It's all very strange, I can't work out whats wrong. Either your talking to the wrong kinds of girls or your approaching them the wrong way.

Ok now a woman said to you "I'll have sex with any other penis on the planet, except yours", what was the situation, was you in bed at the time, was this in response to a chat up line. Please respond and tell us more.

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A female reader, duskyrowe United Kingdom +, writes (3 June 2008):

duskyrowe agony auntHey I would never go out with a guy who is nasty and beats 9 types of crap out of me. I like a guy to treat me with respect and love me for who I am.

I really don't know why these women treat you like this,except they need their heads testing.

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A female reader, Star_07 United States +, writes (2 June 2008):

Star_07 agony auntThank you for following up!

Women really don't want to beat up and treated like crap-those are the women that are just used to that kind of treatment. And when a nice guy comes along, they dont know how to react!

I would say that you are probably going after the wrong kinds of women. Where do you meet them? Are you going after the same type of women? Try to meet women in a variety of settings. How about through a friend? Blind dates? Through a club? Online dating (which I really dont agree with but its worth a shot sometimes)? Remember to go for women that are like you! Everything you would want in a woman, you shuld already be. Like atracts like!

Sorry I couldn't help! I am just wondering why its been so hard for you if you are all that you say you are!

Think about what goes on during your past dates. Are you being too easy and not playing hard to get? Just trying to help but I am sure that you can find a woman...easy!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008):

This is verified as being by the original poster of the question

duskyrowe: Yes, I've had a few, no I've never did it with any of them.

Star_07: I'm polite, I ask them to go out with me, they say NO!

Uncle Sneaker: They want 1)Harrison Ford 2)Tom Cruise 3) Brad Pitt 4)Any other male on the planet, except me.

duskyrowe: My penis is fine, it is neither huge nor small, just about right.

Again. I am 5'10" inches tall, I am in great shape and I have a job, a valid NJ driver's license and I have never been convicted of a felony. Seems that women would rather be treated like shit and abused than go out with a nice guy like me. I'm not even going to try anymore. If they want someone who is going to treat them like crap and beat them up and then say "oh honey, but I love you", then fine stay with those dudes.

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A female reader, duskyrowe United Kingdom +, writes (2 June 2008):

duskyrowe agony auntHave you ever had a girlfriend in your entire life? If so why have you not had sex yet? Surely not every female you meet has said she does not want your penis anywhere near your vagina.

I mean a dick is a dick, whether its long,short,fat or thin. Maybe they are not attracted to you.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008):

What type of women are you going after? I class myself a decent person and never say anything like that to a man, maybe you should stop going after the louder women

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A female reader, Star_07 United States +, writes (2 June 2008):

Star_07 agony auntI have to wonder too, what else is going on here?

How are you approaching these women? How do these conversations come up? It doesnt take beauty to get laid here....its more about tactic. Do you try getting to know someone first or do you come out and say..Hey, you want to bang?

It also helps if you are trying to have sex for the right reasons! If someone is dating you for a relationship and you are their for the quick bang then there is a problem, and vice versa. You need to figure out what you are doing wrong b/c, like I said, you don't need to be something special to get laid!

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A male reader, Uncle Sneaker United Kingdom +, writes (2 June 2008):

Uncle Sneaker agony auntI like the advice from duskyrowe! but I have to suspect that there is something else going on here.

I'm not convinced that women in New Jersey are really so different from everywhere else in the world, and I know from experience that women like sex just as much as we men do. Certainly women are better at finding excuses why it's "not a good idea" at a particular time, a particular place or with a particular person, and in some cases those excuses may well be perfectly valid (even if we would prefer to ignore them). So if ALL women on ALL occasions are telling you that sex isn't an option, and you are over 50 years old, then something isn't right.

Do you have any more to tell us?

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A female reader, duskyrowe United Kingdom +, writes (2 June 2008):

duskyrowe agony auntNext time you get a knock back from a woman about having sex with you....... Say to her "Actually Honey I don't your smelly pussy is worthy of my penis"!!!!

Why do these women say these things? Is it bevause you are not so well endowed or are you well endowed?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008):

What does your penis look like, how long is it and big are you. Would you consider yourself a large or small man. More information needed to provide usefull advice.

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