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writes: Yesterday I slept with my new partner for the first time. He is the second person I have slept with, but I hadnt had sex for over a year (b4 yesterday). Basically when i lost my virginity and on the six times after that with the same partner) it didn't hurt nad I didnt bleed. Yesterday however it hurt a lot and i am still bleeding a bit today. Does anyone know why this would happen when its not my first time having sex. My new partner is bigger in the bedroom department than my first partner. do you think this could have caused it. Im wondering if because my previous partner was so small he didnt really (physically) taken my virginity. Any ideas?? Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2007): I don't think it is because he is bigger. Did you kiss and have foreplay before sex? Make sure you are good and wet. Also, try KY if it hurts again. You can also tell him it hurt and to be gentle.
I know it is odd to say this about someone you love but, you might be truthfull and talk about it
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2007): how big was your first partner?
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reader, Toria +, writes (26 October 2006):
 You seem to have already answered your own question just with the need for confirmation on what you believe the problem is and you will find that this most probably is the problem.
I would take things very slowly and find positions that are more comfortable for you until your body adjusts to your new boyfriend, I know when I met someone that was bigger than my ex's even though I had, had sex more times than you by that point I still had pain and I bleed afterwards so this isn't uncommon.
Hope this helps :o)
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (25 October 2006):
 No wonder it hurt!! If you've only had sex with one other guy, who was physically "small" SEVEN times LAST year, then this one is definitely going to hurt a whole lot more. Clearly your vagina hasn't ever been expanded to fit a penis that big!
Maybe it is because your first partner didn't break your hymen, it's very, very, very possible.
Just take it nice and slow with the new partner, and eventually your body will adjust to him.
Always be SAFE!
Love, India
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2006): Well I think you could have hit the nail on the head there. I think it is entirely possible that even though you have lost your virginity to your ex may not have broken your Hyman.
Its perfectly normal to experience some discomfort but dont worry too much, if the bleeding lasts longer than a couple of days maybe you should visit your doctor. but I think the size of your bf Penis may have alot to do with it.
Next time you have sex try to take things slowly so that ur lady parts have a chance to strecth a little before you go at it!. lol.
Ok good luck.
xx
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