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Sex with a new boyfriend - how soon is too soon?

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Question - (20 June 2008) 7 Answers - (Newest, 7 July 2008)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

How soon is too soon, to have sex with a new boyfriend? Im just curious to know.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008):

Wait until you are married. It is better that you do it right.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008):

Somewhere between your first date and a couple of years. As others have said, there is no rule that works for everyone. It is time when both parties feel like they are ready. Neither one should pressure the other into having sex if they are not ready or don't want to. It also should depend on your relationship experience. If this is your first real relationship then you should probably wait for a couple of months at your age to make sure that you are ready. For someone older who has experience with various partners then they woule probably feel ready much sooner. It took several months before my first wife and I had sex when we were 21 years old. After my divorce 11 years later it was first or second date. My current wife was the same before and after her divorce as I was. For us, it was second date.

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A female reader, O Connor Ireland +, writes (20 June 2008):

O Connor agony auntno one here can answer that for you hun. only you guys will know when the time is right. there is no deadline set in stone - every relationship is different! if your not ready yet then thats fine. and when its going to happen im sure it will just happen easily without planning it. and im sure it will be great! so relax and just let it happen wen it does. hope this helps xxx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008):

Whenever you are BOTH ready for it and not until then. It does depend on many things, like whether you have known them as a friend for years etc - then obviously you are bound to feel more comfortable with them as there is less of a 'getting to no each other stages'. If there is any doubt then wait - whats the rush? If I had to give a time scale I would say anything between 2 and 6 months.

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A female reader, Sophia_Sweetheart United Kingdom +, writes (20 June 2008):

Sophia_Sweetheart agony auntWell it's bound to be different in everyone's books. I'd say after about 2 months is okay, but if you're comfortable enough to have sex within a month, then fine. Whenever you feel you trust him and love him enough =]

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A female reader, Tremor Australia +, writes (20 June 2008):

Tremor agony auntIt's entirely up to the two of you - no-one else can say when is or isn't too soon. If you feel comfortable with it after a month, fine, and if you want to wait two years, then that's just dandy too.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008):

if you're both not ready to have sex with each other, don't do it. just wait..

-mzangel

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