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22-25,
anonymous
writes:O.K. this is sort of embarrassing. My bf and I have great sex, but I know he wants me to be on top more. I just feel so uncomfortable...like I'm not doing it right, can't get it in right or something. I also have trouble with the whole 69 position thing. I enjoy sex immensely, but it feels so much like animals when I can't see his face and his hands and face are in my crotch. I mean it just seems like I could be anybody. Also, when I give him oral, I like to be able to hold his hand and see his face. Is this really messed up? Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2008): Don't worry honey, you just seem to prefer the more intimate side of things. Let him know this, and I'm sure he'll understand. But, I do have one other point, I'm not exactly sure how you can hold hands during sex... I'd hope you're doing other things with them too :] But you have nothing to worry about, it's not unusual or irrational.
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reader, LIERIN +, writes (11 February 2008):
 Hey,I love sex and I enjoy it probably more than my BF ... but I do have similar problem w beeing on top. I don't like it.. I can't feel anything ... I do it 'cause he likes it. I don't think I am doing it wrong, 'cause he loves it .. but I just don't enjoy it.69 was always a problem in the past for me .. until I met my present BF. I felt wierd about it ... probably like every other woman thinking ... how does it look like down there? Is it clean enough? Does it smell bad? yeah sounds disgusting, but lets face it we all think about that!But now I love it. He made me feel comfortable in every way and I want to do it more than ever.If you like looking at him, tell him you can just give him a blow job and he can go down on you after or something... you have to talk to him about that.It's not messed up ... it's just the way you feel and he should respect that ! And Sex is kinda like an animal instinct ... so ... when we are doing it ... we are kinda like animals, but in a good way! So don't worry about it!Good luck
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reader, anon_e_mouse  + ♥, writes (11 February 2008):
 I don't think this sounds messed up. I think you're more emotional/intimate about sex and like the eye contact thing going on and that feeling of closeness.
This isn't a bad thing at all. Just remember he's trying to please you when "his hands and face are in my crotch" as you so delicately put it :)
You got nothing to worry about.
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