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writes:My boyfriend and i do have good sex but its boring after 2 years together. Its like routine sex, most nights before bed, i want something exciting i want to have sex outside but my boyfriend doesn't want to and its really annoying me now because i do everything he wants, how do i deal with this? I really enjoy sex outside to make it fun, naughty and exciting and hes just to shy!I tried not having sex with him and teasing him for about 5 hours one night and told him if he wants it we'll go a walk and do it outside, i ended up giving him! Sex is now getting boring because we've done everything, it feels like gran and grandpa sex as they have it in doors in the same bed for years!
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reader, achilles95  +, writes (12 March 2009):
 Well if its really boring you need to talk to him. If he doesn't listen to you, you need to really try not to let him hit it. You need to let him know that your bored. If anything try to shake it up do it in the kitchen or any kinky kinda place.
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reader, Jager +, writes (12 March 2009):
oh dear. I have been with my partner for lets see. 4 years and i know what you mean however. I think the problem is not doing new things but just that your stuck in a rut.
Its not exciting because you know its going to happen. From what you say i imagine he has not got a problem with it. So first off i would say stop having sex every other night and stop having sex when you want to.
Dont plan it you not aloud to anymore tell him he has to do it. He has to plan when and where and not tell you. Just do it!
Now sex outside. Lets not pretend that its not been done before but please remember that even if you do get him to agree the kind of sex outdoors your on about is not naughty its illegal and can land you with a fine.
I know people who have been in the position where they thought they were deserted and no one was around and all of a suddon someone walks past with there kids. Or a dog finds you interesting and wont go away.
What have you tried? Have you tried toys you can get sex toys that are used in conjunction with sex and from experience some of them are really good. There are cock rings that vibrate while you have sex making him vibrate inside you!
you really need to consider doing some research into how to spice up your love life. There are also things you can take to make it feel better. oils and creams to change the sensation.
of course if you just want to have sex outside and this is an excuse then i recommend you take him somewhere you know very well that you know will have no people other than you and simply strip. Just give him a strip tease and see what happens if he still dont want to after that then maybe try talking to him about it because there is a reason.
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reader, Flporrego  +, writes (12 March 2009):
 In my opinion, you shouldn't try to pressure him into doing anything he doesn't want to. If it's simply getting THAT boring talk to him about it. Try not to do it. Develop a stronger friendship and fall in love with him all over again. Then try it again.
Here's another idea.. I'm a guy and i know what games that girls play sometimes can do to me lol. Tease him except dont give up. Just keep it going until he gives in. If you guys do it often, it's going to feel like a necessity for him and he will want it more than ever.. Maybe you will to. Just try not to do it for a while. See where that takes you.
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