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*Duhpree
writes:Ok so im 18 i have been sexually active since i was 15 but sex has never once felt good. I have never had an orgasm from penetration. Its kinda like im not feeling anything at all when im having sex. when I was younger i did what i think every child did and "Humped" a stuffed animal and that did make me cum but now...NOTHING!!! My friends talk about sex like its soooo good and i feel as if i missing out. Could it be that im numb down there?? Is something wrong with me??? I really need some help! PLEASE!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 October 2011):
 I think it's a combo of things...
1. I'm older now and for women age does has it's benefits in the bedroom... it leaves me more relaxed and since I don't CARE if I have an orgasm now it's easier to get there...
2. My partner is not as well endowed girth wise as what I am used to so I am not quite as stretched out as previously and his angle/curve hits me in just the right spot...
sadly sometimes it's just about the right spot at the right time with the right person...
also what you might find is that the clitoral orgasms are stronger and deeper and more ALL OVER ENCOMPESSING vs. the 'g spot' or vaginal orgasms.
I am definitely having two totally different experiences in that realm...
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reader, PDuhpree +, writes (18 October 2011):
PDuhpree is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have one more question for so_very_confused do you think it was him that made you orgasm or do you think you were doing something different
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reader, PDuhpree +, writes (11 October 2011):
PDuhpree is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWOW. Thank you that was very helpful! Thats exactly the way I feel. I like the act of sex and everything that goes along with it but not sex itself! But i will talk to my Doctor about it soon
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 October 2011):
I didnt' like actual intercourse until I met my current partner...
I did not orgasm from penetration until I met him. I have learned that my orgasms from penetration are different from the orgasms I have when I masturbate... and at 18 I did not enjoy intercourse but tolerated it because I liked all the other things that went along with sex...
I liked the kisses and cuddles and the petting... and oral sex and other stuff... but the act of intercourse, if I never had it I did not care. It was not till around age 35 (yes THIRTY FIVE) that sex with penetration started being enjoyable... and not till January of this year (at age 50) when my current partner and I became sexually active that my world was rocked...
I do think a medical workup with a GYN is in order...
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (6 October 2011):
 I really wish you the best of luck in finding out why you can't seem to feel anything. I hope your bf will be understanding and supportive of you.
If you do manage to find some answers, then let us know. There could be someone else on here who has a similar problem but is too scared to speak up about it, you could really help someone without even knowing it.
All the best! :)
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reader, PDuhpree +, writes (6 October 2011):
PDuhpree is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have tried everything but I guess it finally time to women up and speak to my doctor about this. But thank you very much on your help.
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (5 October 2011):
Hmmmm, maybe you should go and see your doctor then, just to make sure that everything is ok down there. I seriously doubt that what you did as a kid would make you numb down there.
Have you tried a vibrator? might be worth a go (and your hand won't ache either!) This must be very frustrating for you, i hope you can find some answers :)
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reader, PDuhpree +, writes (4 October 2011):
PDuhpree is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut even stimulating my clitoris doesn't work. Most of the time when we have sex im on my stomach and rubbing on my clitoris but that doesn't work either. I get nothing at all out of oral sex either. Nothing is working at all for me. I am in a stable relationship we have been together for a year now and i am very much in love but nothing is working.
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reader, unknown2u +, writes (4 October 2011):
I doubt there's anything wrong with you. More likely it's the guys you're with, and perhaps the nature of your relationships.
Satisfying sex is about so much more than penetration. Most guys have to be taught what works for their girl, because each girl is different. That's a process that takes time and trust, so is only likely to work well in a long-term committed relationship.
Fundamentally a woman is responsible for her own orgasm. You know you can do it by yourself, so you have to figure out how to have him help you along.
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (4 October 2011):
Everybody makes the mistake thinking that sex is ALL about penetration... well it's not!!
I'm like you, i have never had and orgasm through penetration alone, and this is completely normal so don't panic! The clitoris is the most sensentive area down there, and this is what needs stimulating to orgasm. There are various ways to do this... you can use a vibrator (a small one is good if you want the penetration too!) Or you could use your fingers, experiment when you are alone and find out what makes you tick (you can use your fingers in missionary, doggy style, and on top if you lean right back)
Lastly, i find that being on top stimulates my clitoris if i lean forward slightly and shove a load of pillows behind my fella's shoulders until he's proped up slightly (almost a 45 degree angle) so my clit has contact with his pubic bone, guarenteed and orgasm everytime!
Are you in a stable relationship at the moment? If you are, then maybe try some of these things with your boyfriend, and get him to stimulate your clit during sex aswell.
If youre single, spend some time exploring and find what makes you feel good. Best of luck :)
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