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writes:im 17years old, and ive had the weird feeling of wanting a child so bad. this feeling has been with me for about almost three years now. mt boyfriend told me that we cant have a child because we wouldnt be able to raise it, but i want one. i dont know how to get rid of this feeling, but i wish it would go away for awhile. but i dont know how to let it go. Im confused about a lot of things but the feelings strong nd i needed to vent this. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2010): yes i know bringing a child into the world at this age is not good. and i know better then to do it. i want to get a good job and go to college to have a better life for when i get older. its just a feeling ive been having. but my mind know that schools important and without it you really cant get anywhere. im a jr in high school and i wont throw away having a time where i need to focus on school and my job by having a kid. but i thank you guys for your opinions
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (9 November 2010):
 I've been where you are, so I know what a nagging feeling it is for you. I remember feeling like that when I was about 21. I had a lot of older friends who were all married and having children and I wanted so badly to be in that club and have a little baby to love and fuss over. I didn't end up having my first child until I was 29 and boy oh boy am I glad I waited. I love my 3 kids to death but my god they are hard hard hard work!! Some days I cry with the enormity of my responsibilities and the little brats say things like Oh Mum's crying again cor what are you crying about now mum. It breaks your heart and makes you feel like no one cares about you. My husband and I just went away for the weekend together just the two of us for the first time in 8!!!! years and it was like a military operation trying to get everyone organised and packed and safely off to where they had to go before we could head off.
What I'm trying to say is that yes having kids is great and I wouldn't change it for the world but I'm really glad I lived a little first because it's so hard to be a parent. It's a constant grind of menial tasks and very little thanks for your hard work. Kids can be rude, defiant, obnoxious, loud, nasty little creatures and can make themselves very hard to like at times. So please tuck this feeling you have away for the time being. Know that it will happen and content yourself with the knowledge that you are destined to be a Mother but wait for a few years and live your life to the fullest first.
It's proven that parents who are a little older and more world wise have smarter more secure children so live a little, have some fun and gain wisdom for a few more years first.
Good luck sweetheart things will happen the way they are supposed to so don't push too hard.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2010):
So you really want something. Great. I wanted a lot of things at 17 that I didn't get, nor should I have gotten at the time.
This sounds like I am making a joke out of something that is very emotional for you, but I am really being serious. No matter how badly you want your certain thing, the rules are still the same. You don't need it and cannot handle it so please don't try to get it yet.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (9 November 2010):
 Are you having that annoying feeling of wanting a baby so bad it hurts? You see other pregnant girls around you and can't help but want to be in there shoes. I have that feeling, but I'm also 25 and married.
At 17, you shouldn't have a care in the world..your biggest dilema is homecoming, prom, your boyfriend, graduating high school, losing your virginity, applying to college, figuring out your major and minor...not being a teen mom! If you get pregnant then you'll miss out on all those fun activities, or they'll at least be postponed for quite some time because you'll be too busy caring for a screaming infant. Parents may kick you out when they find out you got knocked up. Your boyfriend will have to get a minimum wage job on top of trying to finish school, you may have to drop out, or get held back from the school you'll miss. His job probably won't be enough, so you may have to apply for state aid and be supported by the tax payer's money. Boyfriend could crack under pressure and leave you as a single mom. Or if your lucky your parents will financially support you, but out of all the single mothers I know, only one's parents have supported her.
That's what could happen..don't bring a baby into this world at 17. A baby deserves to be born to 2 loving parents who can provide a healthy, financially stable environment. Wait till you're older and preferably married. I know you have this want but can you tell me exactly why you want a baby?
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