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writes: My friend is self-absorbed. If she doesn't have the spotlight for even one moment, she'll try to find a way to get it back. She'll even go as far as interrupting two people talking, to get them to pay attention to her. She brags about how all these guys want her and ask her out but if I try to talk about a guy I'm seeing ...she doesn't have time for it...EVER. She hangs around a new group of friends who verbally bully her. We (her old group of friends) tried to warn her about them, but she just accuses us of being "jealous." But when we hang out with her, she then bullies ME and puts me down, makes fun of me, and basically takes it out on me or whomever is her "target" for the night. What is going on here?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (8 February 2010):
She's really very insecure and unhappy with herself. The way she compensates for that is to bully those around her. You could sit down and ask her what the problem is that she always has to act this way and put you down. Clearly though if nothing changes, perhaps it would be better to move on from her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2010): She is obviously troubled, perhaps she feels neglected at home and wants to get the attention she lacks from others. As a psychology student and an empath I have come to realize this is a very typical case and for the most part has the same cause. She probably feels very insecure about herself but tries to cover that with "over cockiness." Meaning she makes herself sound and seem much better than she truly is. I have yet to find a cure for people like this. You can try talking to her about it, sit her down and have a deep heart to heart talk with her, she might push you away which is very normal. If you let her know you are there if she wants to talk about what makes her troubled while also letting her know you will never tell a soul what the two of you talk about she is sure to come to you when she feels ready, which might take some time.
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