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writes:Hey I've known this str8 dude for 10 years now. As kid we've done things together. Sexually and even as adults. There's been a few time I had pay him but it still happened. Now he knows I love him and I know he uses that to his advantage. He has an on and off again girlfriend and a year old son. We never had intercourse or kissed or anything like that. Though we good friends. Does he have some type of feelings for me? He hangs with me almost 24/7 and he's always calling me for everything. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2010): Where does it say he has a girlfriend AND a wife?? I don't understand why people are confused, it's written pretty clear.
If he's been doing things with you sexually, then he's not straight, he's bisexual or curious. Either way, he's not 100% straight because I can't see a straight guy sucking another mans penis when he has a girlfriend, money or not. (If he did suck your penis for that matter)
I don't think he does have feelings for you in that way, he obviously enjoys being around you, but he's using you as an experiment. Would he do it without the money? Maybe you should ask him yourself how he feels about you.
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reader, Honest_Answers  +, writes (29 March 2010):
 Basically you've paid for him to suck your penis?! He's evidently bi-curious and maybe a bit confused about his feelings. What's he getting out of this arrangement other than cash? Like others have said, stop the cash and see what happens. Homosexual intercourse is probably very daunting for him, even if he is bi-curious so that might be what's preventing him from taking the final step to 'being gay'.
If you stop the cash flow and he stays then I think you need to have a chat. He wont be able to be in a straight relationship if he's thinking about you and personally I'd hate to be the girlfriend who had a boyfriend who took money for doing sexual acts to anyone - male or female. This man needs to address his morals.
When it comes down to it he's either callous and is only doing this for money or he is bisexual.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2010): Hi. If hes done sexual things with you and hes with women, hes not straight hes bi sexual. He must prefer being with women or he would be in a loving committed relationship with you. I dont think hes going to run off with you any time soon. He just enjoys your company and your love feeds his ego. Youre also readily available for alternative sex when hes in the mood.
Hes keeping you as a "FWB" no more than that. You say he knows you love him and hes taking advantage of that. So i think youve answered your own question regarding his feelings for you. You are being used. Break off contact and find yourself a proper partner x
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (29 March 2010):
 You are his ATM(Cash Dispensing ) machine. About having feelings for you ,I am not very sure. Cut off the money supply and see what happens.
Will he still sticks with you?
If you are uncomfortable with him , let him know your limits and boundaries.
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reader, Sarah_87 +, writes (29 March 2010):
i'm confused?? you said you have done things sexually.. but yet you have not had intercourse or kissed or anything like that?? and you have had to pay this "straight" married guy to do what...?? can you elaborate cause it's not very clear and doesn't make any sense at all..
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (29 March 2010):
 So he is married and has a girlfriend? Is straight but done sexual things with you? Yet you have not'kissed or anything like that'?
I think you might need to make this all a bit clearer/ detailed coz I for one am a bit confused.
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