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male
age
41-50,
*amesdeann
writes:Hi my name is james and im 29 years old. Lately i've been going to this diner, and there is this waitress im attracted to. But the thing is im in a relationship. At first it was just nothing i just thought of her as an attractive girl never spoke to her and didn't think much of it. I would say after while of having complications in my relationship. Arguments over dumb things. She can say very mean things and im a very passive person so times i just kept my mouth shut let her say whatever cause i didn't want to argue. Shes also very demanding...After awhile when me and her didn't talk I started to kinda of have a crush on the waitress. I notice we had a lot in common. I started to make conversation with her as days gone by i notice there was flirting. But i never asked her for her number which i know she been wondering why i never asked is because im in a relationship which i never told her. Ive been with my girlfriend for three years. I just don't get that attention from my girlfriend as much as i wanted. I don't see her going out of her way for me like i do. Then lately ive been thinking of all the negative things about her. Don't get me wrong i love her but something keeps telling me what if i was to go out with the other girl would my love life be a lot better. I feel like i put in more effort in our relationship then she does. I never crossed the line to ask the waitress for her number because i knew it wasn't the right thing to do. So i just kept it simple have small talk but at the same time i really want to get to know her even as a friend but i know i can't do that cause im in a relationship. Honestly is it cause i feel like my relationship is dying down? We hardly have sex if we do i feel like i have to ask her for it. It used to be a few times a day then to ever other day. Now its like twice a month. She says she wants marriage but i don't know im happy where its going. I don't feel loved. I also feel guilty because when the girl that i met which is the waitress made a joke to me saying "oh no wonder your single", i didn't reply to her well because im not. I don't know why i didn't say it i should have but i didn't. Im not sure maybe its just that saying the grass is always greener on the other side..I just needed someone to hear me out because im confused..Thanks for listening
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reader, curious1987  +, writes (25 May 2012):
 Maybe u shuld tell ur gf u need s a break becoz u are confused.. dont just use the time to see the waitress. But as time for urself. u'll soon see whether u really miss ur gf or don't think about her. So if u find ur happier when on the breaka then when ur with her, it prob time to end the relationship. But think of what u do before making the decision. but i think u need to take a breAk to decide what u really want. Good luck and let us know how u get on. Xx
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