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Scared of having sex with my FWB and worried he will compare me to his ex....

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Question - (30 April 2012) 2 Answers - (Newest, 30 April 2012)
A female Australia age 26-29, *my1294 writes:

i've been on and off with this guy for two years now, we've dated twice but its hard now with me being at uni and him in year 12 so we're just friends, with benefits i guess you could say.

we've done everything except handjob and sex..i'm actually kind of scared about giving a handjob and i dont know why; i'm scared of hurting him or not being good enough or that i'm going to freak out and make it awkward but i really want to do it to show him i can. what is the right type of grip and other than up and down, what other hand motions turn a guy on?

he recently told me he lied in our relationship about being a virgin because i started dating another guy (we are both 17), and she is SO SO pretty and now i feel like he will judge me or compare me even though he said he would never do that because he cares about me to much and has for 2 years now. i know i'm ready for sex, but a part of me thinks i just want to because he now has and we said we'd be eachother's firsts....

thank you so much :)

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (30 April 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntOn and off for two years and you are at most 17….

If you are scared of giving a hand job then you are not ready

HE LIED TO YOU

He won’t judge you or compare you to his ex girlfriend because you are NOT a girlfriend you will be a handy penis holder…

Either he’s your boyfriend and he cares about you or you are a fuck buddy and mean nothing more than a warm place to stick it in… (mouth and anus are warm places too as is a lubed up hand)

Honey if YOU care about this boy and he only wants FWB.. RUN!

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A female reader, Anonymous 123 Italy +, writes (30 April 2012):

Anonymous 123 agony auntYou do know what FWBs' mean, right? No strings attached sex without any feelings involved. Think hard about what you're about to get into; don't throw away your future and other potential proper relationships that you will eventually have, just for sex. Its never worth it, you will definitely get hurt, and this is not the right way to lose your virginity. Sex should be a part of a loving, committed relationship, where you are mature enough to decide what you want and what you dont want. there is no harm waiting for a while longer, at 16-17 years, you are way too young for sex.

Of course if you decide to ignore all the advice you get here and still go for it, then it will just be your own doing. But keep in mind that the road that you are about to embark upon is a dangerous one, be sure about that.

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