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Scared of having a miscarriage

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Question - (7 September 2018) 3 Answers - (Newest, 8 September 2018)
A female Ireland age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi all,

This one is mainly for the ladies, also men who have had a pregnant partner. This might sound silly to some people but I guess I just need some reassurance and guidance. Maybe even just to have someone to talk to I guess.

So I am just short off six weeks pregnant with our first baby. Everything has been great and so exciting. Today I got sore and then I noticed I was bleeding, went to the hospital and all appears to be okay.

However I know blood is never a good sign and now my anxiety has hit the roof and I am just feeling so scared.

Has anybody ever had this in early pregnancy and it turn out to be nothing to worry about? Or is it that the baby is going to miscarry. I guess I am not sure off the odds and I am petrified!

Seeing my husbands face beside me today while waiting on the scan broke my heart he really thought we had lost the buba! I know I don't really have a question as such I guess am just stressed and feel alone and scared.

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (8 September 2018):

CindyCares agony aunt Yes, about 20% of pregnant women had bleeding occurring durung the first 12 weeks if pregnancy and it turned out it was nothing to worry about.

Bleeding, or spotting, is far from uncommon in early pregnancies, and if we are talking about light to mild bleeding, or spotting, generally darker in colour than menstrual flow , not lasting more than 1 or 2 days consecutively, and not accompanied by heavy cramps, or severe stomach aches or back aches- it's due to a series of different things but, to make it short and simple, nothing to worry about. It just- happens, in about 20% of pregnancies.

If we are talking instead about heavy flow, brilliant red in colour, accompanied by dizzyiness, cramps,pain etc.-- then, yes , it indicates a problem, either an actual miscarriage going on, or, for instance, an ectopic pregnancy, or a molar pregnancy, or a number of other serious problems ( not all of which ,though, necessarily mean the end of the pregnancy , which often can be carried on observing bed rest and taking the appropriate medications ).

But if at the hospital they visited you ,then they let you go home, without prescribing further tests, or at least keeping you a night under observation… I think you should not be too anxious . Unluckily there are also incompetent physicians, that's true - but hospitals tend to err on the caution side, and, if any , to be way MORE prudent than necessary, not less ( I guess to avoid future accusations of malpractice ), so if you went to the hospital, they checked you, and pronounced you ( and baby ) to be fine- then I guess you are actually fine.

Did you inform your OB/GYN, anyway ? what does he / she say ?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2018):

I too bled at around the same 6 week mark but it turns out I had a very scary SCH or a subchorionic hematoma. It was a very unpleasant, scary time and like you, I too thought that I'd lost my baby. I started bleeding in the middle of the night so imagine my state!

Anyway, everything turned out well in the end although I was on complete bed rest for almost 2 months from then on and a LOT of medication. For the rest of my pregnancy, I had to take things easy, mostly be in the bed, no walking around too much, no exercise, no sex, nothing. However, my life, my naughty little baby girl who's now almost 2 years old made everything so, so worth it! I had a healthy delivery and the baby had no problems whatsoever.

I'm pretty sure you will be fine as well OP. Remember, you are not alone. The only advice that I can give you is that get off the internet. It's very tempting to keep googling the symptoms, to keep looking things up but you know what, the internet is a very deceptive and a terrible place to be in at times. The information could be very wrong and at worst, could make you feel like it's the end of the world. Don't listen to what medical forums say. If anything bothers you then just ask your doctor immediately, just make sure that you have the best medical help possible and follow your doctor's orders to the fullest. Rest, rest, rest. And do let us know how you're doing.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (8 September 2018):

Honeypie agony auntMy second pregnancy I started having contractions (which is how I found out I was pregnant). I had what I presumed were my period almost on time for the first 4 months and then I started to have contractions, which just didn't add up. I went to see my doctor and found out I was pregnant, which I really didn't expect as I was on birth control (but had been given some meds that apparent did work with birth-control).

I was put on bed-rest for the remainder of the time. My OB kept telling me I MIGHT have a premature baby and a small one at that but if I stuck to the bed-rest I might make it til 36 weeks... well, the bed-rest worked and I ended up going 40! week and having to be induced and had a healthy 9lbs 7 oz baby girl.

So, my advice. SLOW down. Make sure you rest, don't carry heavy stuff. There are some VERY good pregnancy yoga exercises you can do as well. Keeping calm and healthy is important. Your partner I hope will help you around the house so you don't have to run ragged.

Make sure you drink plenty of water, hold off on caffeine and sugary drinks and eat well.

I hope all will go well.

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